Me, F25, Him, M27.
We haven’t officially broken up but still are going thru somethings. We were never in a relationship just FWB but we are best friends. I fell in love. He didn’t want me and said even if he wanted to marry me (which he said he would have) he couldn’t bcos different religions. His family arranged a girl for him and he accepted right away. He said he would do anything for his family’s happiness. He still is with me sometimes physically after engagement (which we both tried to stop and now it is been longer since we did anything) cos he never liked this girl. Now he is like it feels wrong to do anything. He was the one who started this physical thing after the engagement. For him it might be just hormones but every time he comes back to me I assume okay he does love me that is why he is not able to resist it. Now he is talking very nice to the girl most of the time (even tho he says he is being compelled). He will leave to his home permanently in few months and I am already very depressed without him. Life feels empty and I feel like I cannot do anything without him. I feel like I will never love someone like I love him or that feeling I get whenever I see him. I also wonder if he will get closer to her, start loving her, how they will have sex, have kids, how he will kiss her all that. Please help me I just want to be out of this loop. I cannot stay away from him cos he is my best friend and we are in the same place of work and apartment.
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tl;dr FWB. He left me for the girl his family chose. I am obsessed and can’t get over him.
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Sad. But honestly. You haven’t really tried to move on from him.
He’s using you. Big time. Having sex with you and keeping you hanging… whilst he’s about to marry another.
Frankly? I reas nothing much redeeming about this man. Hes too gutless to stand up for himself. Letting himself be pushed into an arranged marriage.
Pfft… Cease all contact with him and get your life back. You are degrading yourself by taking the crumbs he throws you.
You are worth more.