Hi everyone,
I’m really hoping to get some advice on a difficult situation I’m in. I have been with my boyfriend for a few years now, and things have always been pretty good between us. However, lately I have been feeling really confused and unsure about our relationship.
I think the main problem is that my boyfriend has a really bad temper. He can get really angry and shout at me for no reason, and it’s really scary. Sometimes he even gets physical and pushes me or grabs me.
It’s not just the physical and verbal abuse that’s been really hard to deal with, though. He also has a way of making me feel like I’m crazy or that I’m the one who’s doing something wrong. For example, he’ll say things like “you’re overreacting” or “you’re just being dramatic” when I try to talk to him about how his behavior makes me feel.
He also has a way of denying things that have happened. For example, there was one time when he broke my phone during an argument and then later claimed that he had no idea what had happened to it. Or there was another time when he accused me of cheating on him, even though I had never given him any reason to doubt me.
It’s all really confusing and I don’t know what to do. On the one hand, I really love my boyfriend and I don’t want to lose him. But on the other hand, I can’t keep living like this. I’m always walking on eggshells around him, trying to avoid setting him off. It’s exhausting.
I’ve tried talking to him about it, but he just gets angry and says that I’m the one who’s causing the problems. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to leave him, but I also don’t want to stay with someone who treats me this way.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
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i think you know what you have to do. he is abusive, full stop. please find some
local resources and leave him. if you have to question it, you know the answer. you deserve better
If you wouldn’t treat him the way he’s treating you then it isn’t a good relationship.
You’re BF is abusive. Regardless of whatever excuses you have to stay with him, none of them matter if you’re not safe.
Leaving him may feel complicated to you, but it’s not. You need to walk away. The sooner, the better. It will only get harder the longer you wait.
I just walked away from a relationship like this. At first you’re sad, than you’re FREE let go and go to social outings (which I’m sure he’s isolated you from) get manicures and massages (I’m sure he might have made you feel down about yourself) just do it you deserve better. Don’t waste anymore time on people like that 💕
Let me check, yep, still no man shortage. There ARE other men. Not that you need one anyway but this guy ? Walking on eggshells, trying to not set him off. THIS IS NOT LOVE. He’s just a bad habit.