Hello,
I \[25M\] am getting lunch with a girl this week. It has been several years since I have gone on a date with someone, so what is some basic advice that you would give to someone in my shoes. What common mistakes should I avoid? If things go well, how should I follow up to get a second date etc.
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Just don’t get in your head, especially if it doesn’t go well. Im really shy and have bad anxiety, but I went out on a date with a new girl every week for about a year until I got really comfortable with it to the point it’s not a thing for me anymore, some of the dates went really badly and it was hard at first but now if it goes badly I don’t care at all no one is everyone’s type.
Also don’t ever be needy for sex ever, biggest turn off for most women and it’s just a bad way to be. Never expect sex just let it happen or not.
Well the point of a first date is to get to know each other. So basically trying to show who you are and try to find out who they are. Most of the time you can see that through conversation and sometimes from behavior. The mistake that should be avoided is being passive and letting the other person do all the work especially in trying to have a conversation. If the other person has to compensate for you just to talk, then it will be very boring. If its the other way around you feel like you are compensating then well it just means they arent good enough and you realize they arent worth asking a second date.
Be a good listener and ask things you really want to know about them. Be yourself when they trying to get to know you. Just try to have a good time and not be too focused on making things perfect.
Do not stare at her boobs
Rub one out 20 minutes before the date, you will be full of confidence and she will wonder why you’re not staring at her boobs