My entire relationship it’s felt like I have to make my boyfriend want to communicate with me emotionally but also sexually and sometimes the way he reacts to me asking for something in return. Like I used to go down on him all the time and we had a healthy sex life but no matter what he never asks if I’m enjoying it or try’s to finish me if I don’t and if he does I have to ask. The other day we were laying in bed after I gave him head and I don’t always ask for something in return as I enjoy it but I kind of hinted to it and he said “come on I do that all the time” and seemed genuinely annoyed and when I mentioned it to him he was just like “sorry I said that” and changed the subject. Like does he just not want to have sex with me? Is this a personal issue on his end? Is this something that will get better if discussed more? Sometimes I just want to break up with him because of this but I don’t know if that is even valid.
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I would as you say, dicuss around this issue before going as far as breaking up. But I do understand that it really bothers you, especially if you as you say do all that and some extra for him all the time, and he does slim to non back…
Maybe it’s something that bothers him, that he just dosent feel like taking about. But if he continues like this, I feel like your better off without him… If the relationship just isn’t there anyomore.
I think this is a valid reason to seriously consider breaking up. His consideration of your needs isn’t there, and that can come to light in other ways down the road. If he’s nervous, tell him you’ll help him. If his wrist hurts, he can use his tongue, or his other hand, or realize there’s lots you can do that won’t make an injured wrist hurt.
I know it’s hard, but you should confront him about his issue with giving you pleasure. Inform him this is leading to a break up. I don’t think you need to give him an ultimatum, but it should be clear to him how mich his attitude bothers you