Being unattractive is just playing the dating game on hard mode !!

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1. I think that it is good to be positive in life but also realistic. Though I like games, I’m not sure that life is a game where we get to choose difficulty, and I understand the analogy. I think that everyone, no matter who they are, has some shortcoming. Certainly, some have advantages and from the outside it might be that they have everything. On the other hand, highly attractive people sometimes have their own difficulties in life that maybe aren’t perceived. Just some friendly thoughts. Thanks!

2. Not if you are looking for an ugly mate

3. Us

4. It just means you gotta be a better human (not saying you aren’t at all) to get on those dates! The best rewards come from hard work, you know?

5. Lack of Confidence

6. I think often we look at an area of life we are struggling in and mistakenly place our sense of self worth and value all in this one area. Because we aren’t successful in this area, it’s importance seems inflated in our minds. My best friend is 6’4” and good looking, he has women throwing themselves at him on dating apps and in real life. His dad has also tried to commit suicide while he was a kid in his home, and now doesn’t want to see him and threatens that he will fight him, over small altercations over the years. Needless to say dating is not an area he puts a lot of importance into. I’m sure he would kill to have a normal, loving father over a girlfriend any day. Just keep in mind, when you’re building something up in your head that you perceive as massively important, it is all just a matter of perception.

7. But the majority of people are unattractive

8. Dating app is slow for me ;[

9. As someone who was ugly (also bullied and rejected over it), before they were ever pretty…

   Being attractive has its downsides, too. Men don’t approach out of intimidation or because they assume you have a boyfriend. Anytime you try to date, people try to get into your pants and constantly objectify you. You experience sexual harassment in most areas of life, including in your jobs by coworkers and customers, by medical professionals, etc. You become the target of hate by both other women who are jealous and by men who feel they can’t have you. Ontop of that, a lot of people befriend you just in the hope that one day they’ll get to sleep with you.

   As someone else said here, everyone has their own difficulties. Being attractive does not mean someone gets everything they want, never struggles, etc.

10. Idk. As a man who dates women… most of them arent as shallow as you’d think they would be. Most are just looking for a good guy. I’m bald, think george costanza, and it’s never been an obstacle.

11. Being attractive isn’t an answer to everything either lol. What matters is your game. The guys I know are like 5’6 5’7 and aren’t the best lookers, like 5 on looks scale, but they pull like crazy, way way more than me. One of them is couch surfing around the world at chicks houses lol. Its charisma that matters the most

12. There’s no such thing. Confidence overshadows it. I’m an ugly fucker and ive dated actual models. Just act like you’re sexy