I (24M) don’t feel attracted to my girlfriend (23F) anymore.

I (24M) don’t feel attracted to my girlfriend (23F) anymore. I’ve seen this happen to couples before, specially when it’s physical attraction, but in our case, it is not only that. The young woman I fell in love with a little over a year ago was someone with ambition and hunger. She wanted to go out into the world after graduating and make the best she could of it. She was beautiful and our interestes and values were more than aligned. She was the woman I wanted my future kids to have as a mother.

She started working in a very well positioned job, in a new city. I had no issues with the distance, as I wanted more than anything for her to chase her dreams and become the best version of herself. Just a few weeks after she moved, things started to go south. She wasn’t feeling great in her new job and began to struggle with depression. I supported her, and when she told me she was quitting to focus on her mental health, I admired and love her more than ever. I just thought is a really brave thing to do. She moved back with her parents (still ldr), and as expected of someone fighting depression, the first few weeks she just existed and didn’t do much. I visited often to try and cheer her up, enjoy as much time together as possible, even if it meant a lot of money. Still, every time I saw her, every time I talked to her, the overwhelming light she once was became dimmer and dimmer. I tried supporting her, and she got worse. I tried just existing by her side and she got worse. I tried pushing her to be better and she got worse. She doesn’t want to go to a psycologist. She visits a psychiatrist once every few months and mostly ignores the prescription she gets. She doesn’t even spend time with her family or friends or even do anything at all day long. I don’t see even a glimpse of the decided, strong woman I fell in love with. I struggle to have meaningful conversations with her, which doesn’t happen to me even with strangers. She’s gained a ton of weight and she always looks pale, almost dead on the inside and outside. I’m not attracted to her intellectually or physically, and sometimes not even emotionally. And yet I have decided to love her every single day since our relationship started. I thought I was strong enough, I thought I could continue loving her through any situation, but every single day that passes it just becomes harder, and I’m afraid I might one day wake up and fail. I want this to work. I want to be there with her as she slowly gets better. But she doesn’t seem to want to get better and it is now destroying me on the inside. I’ve tried my best to not let her see how it affects me, which I managed for a couple months. Not anymore. She knows I’m not well and I fear that will only push her further down the hole. How can I help her get better, and in time recover what has been lost between us?

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UPDATE: A couple weeks ago I told her what’s going on in my mind, and how I feel. She said she understood, but other than that nothing really has changed.