Feeling neglected and used by my wife: seeking advice on how to move forward

I feel neglected and used by my wife. We fight a lot, and she always wants to be correct. I feel like he never tries to listen and understand what I go through to make our relationship work. When fighting she tells me that I don’t listen to her too, even though everyone else thinks I am a good listener. She also can’t acknowledge any good deed I’ve ever done. But when we are not fighting she tells me that I am the best thing that ever happened to her. That she is lucky to have me as a spouse. I fill manipulated and stupid. Frankly speaking, I’ve never felt like this in any relationship. She can’t agree to go to therapy either alone or together. There was a time I scheduled a therapy session for myself and she become upset, telling me that there is nothing wrong with our relationship. There is also a time we fought to the extent I felt like I can’t continue and suggested we take some time apart and think about what we wanted in life. She refused and accused me of wanting to divorce her. I need some thoughtful advice on what to do. We have an almost 2 years old child.