Did I respond correctly to being ghosted?

One of the things I (21F) have been attempting to get better at is “sitting with” (right term?) discomfort when it comes to not hearing back as soon as I would like. When I am calm and rational, it makes perfect sense that others are away working, studying, etc. and I can live with that. Even though it isn’t my strong suit to absolutely, straightforward 100% say what it is I’m feeling, I made it a point to not beat around the bush the next person I went out with.

Since the first encounter message-wise (start of November) I’ve really been doing the open communication thing, asking where specifically she (26F) wanted to go for the date, when I needed to be there, how often I was okay with contacting one another, when could I visit that worked with her schedule. It’s been about a month and a half since we met and there was a 5-day silence at one point (it was Thanksgiving so I tried to let that roll off as she was out of state with her family) that I let her know I wasn’t upset about but wasn’t keen on having regular absences that long.

Everything seemed fine afterward except for her ignoring the part where I said I didn’t mind waiting unless it started to feel excessive (as it did in that time). When she started replying to me again, she just ignored the communication I was trying to do and told me she “was back now so where did I want to go” (for the date). We ended up at a Japanese spot and it was really good, we laughed quite a bit, sat in the car and listened to music and then I took her home. Every day after that she’d talk to me on some form of social media or Snapchat, even becoming my number one best friend. I saw her Saturday before last and everything seemed fine, we continued talking more Sunday and Monday, which is where everything derailed and left me at a loss.

This past Monday evening, she FaceTimed me while she was playing video games and then her family was yelling for her to come decorate the tree with them, so she got up and “took me with her”. I was talking to her, her mom, her sister and her nephew. All of a sudden the phone went black and I figured maybe her battery died or something, so let me wait for a bit until she called back. She never did. I texted her the next day (after work) with kind of a lighthearted “no way you left me for a tree (with emojis here)” to show her I wasn’t angry and was willing to just brush it off and keep going. She only said “I forgot (to call you back)” and it really stung, how do you forget you were just talking to me with your entire family? I answered her again and told her I was “too iconic to be forgotten” (because we’ve done the “name a more iconic duo” jokes before) and then asked how her day had gone, again showing that I was willing to just get back to normal.

It’s been radio silent and we *just* had a conversation through text about how a reply every 5 minutes wasn’t realistic to me, that it was okay to take care of whatever daily happenings came up. She specifically said “lol that sounds good, we hardly go for more than a day if that” and it’s true. All I need to be happy is to know if you’re going to take space ahead of time and for how long so I can occupy myself, and when I get used to those intervals I know when to expect you. Usually around 10:30 am like clockwork she’d show up on my phone with a message or something. I hesitated really hard to text again after she didn’t answer me Tuesday evening because I didn’t want to fall into the trap of sending multiple messages until I got a response. But I bit the bullet and asked on Friday: “Hey, is the 4/5 days of radio silence going to keep happening or no, we just talked about maybe a day or two here and there and then you just completely dropped off without a word and that concerns me.”

And it really truly does. It’s been a week now and I don’t understand where she went or why. She keeps posting on social media and looking at mine. Aren’t you supposed to say you’re not interested anymore or something? Closer to 30 shouldn’t have a problem with this right?