I’m not very good at making friends and for the past 4 years I was never really able to make a close friend, although I do talk to multiple people. But I am socially awkward to the point where regardless of how many times I met with the person (I’m speaking 365 days, 1 hour a day at least), every conversation feels like an ice breaker. Even after meeting the person for 3 years I’m still trying my best to feel close. The problem is that it’s not just one or two people. This is with every one I meet, so every conversation I have is tiring and exhausting. Does anyone feel the same as me? What was your strategy for this? Even if you didn’t feel this, is there a word of advice you can share?
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I feel you 🙁
But when I do break the ice, they discover that I’m a deep ocean and drown or run away. Like I am too much for them. It’d be nice to have someone to share my deepest thoughts with.
I hear you!!
Would it help to remember a key thing from each conversation? Eg ‘Last time we spoke you had a sore shoulder, has it improved?’ ‘Sis your kids get over their chicken pox ok?’
This means you are not starting at the beginning but carrying on.
Notebook in pocket, make notes in the loo if you might forget!!