As the title says, what makes someone/a woman good in bed? Can a woman just lay there and still be good in bed if she makes a lot of noise? Or, can a woman give blow job’s and ride him, and still be bad/average in bed? What makes a woman good/amazing in bed? And how can someone who’s not super confident be good in bed? Just curious what you men (and lesbians) think. Also what makes a bj good or bad?
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I don’t know about other but I would describe someone good in the bed who knows what they are doing and someone who does it passionately. Sex isn’t just a put in put out situation.
There’s ofc a small element of knowing what they’re doing but it is mostly listening to your partner and making their pleasure your priority.
Listening to their body and responding by continuing what you’re doing when it’s positive and listening to anything you need to change.
Participate.
Communicate.
Experiment.
Enjoy yourself.
That is all it really takes for a woman to be good in bed. For BJ tips, this is something porn actually gets right. Look up sensual BJ videos.
Lots and lots of ummm enthusiasm goes a very long way!! Just sayin’ 😉
You could try multiple positions and alternate between them. Sex should’t become a routine of one or two positions only, instead try to mix it up a bit. Also you could try to be verbal too. Most men like some sort of dirty talk, before and during. Multitasking during sex, such as kissing, stroking, hugging or even gently scratching/biting can improve your sex live.
Having open communication with someone who also matches your energy/effort and makes you feel wanted/desired is 🔑 BEFORE two people even get to the bedroom. Of course if sparks fly, have fun. Being on the same page and enjoying the experience together is what it’s all about!
I find a woman who knows what she likes in bed, and can communicate that, is good in bed.
A woman who is comfortable and confident in her nakedness, is good in bed.
A woman who actively enjoys pleasure, giving and receiving, is good in bed.
Enthusiasm and technique
Passion, experience and knowledge……and a nice package doesn’t hurt either.
Communication, dedication, and enthusiasm!
Attitude attitude attitude
Curiosity, vulnerability and a lack of shame.
There’s of course some basic mechanics and understanding of what positions, etc. but I think the main parts are communication on what you and your partner enjoy (I.e. – in the moment “right there”, or “just like that” go a long way). And maybe after a little communication about what you liked, etc. And then there’s openness. If you want something let them know and vice versa. You’d be surprised how open a partner may be to something.
Comedian Taylor Tomlinson quote: “go at sex like you’re five… if it fits in your mouth put it in”
Enthusiasm is definitly a must.
1. Enthusiasm for playing with his shaft, balls etc.
2. Enthusiasm for putting his penis/fingers/tongue anywhere you are comfortable
3. Enthusiasm for receiving, lots of men love to give and want you to love it to.
Understanding
1. Orgasms are great but one of you might not, both of you might not, or both of you could. It’s all fine.
2. If he wants to cum, but cant get there, be sexy and let him know it’s ok and doesn’t phase you.
3. If he can’t get you to cum, ask if he wants to watch you do it.
Positions are based on individual preferences, mix it up you’ll find what you both like. Attitude to the different scenarios are everything.
A partner who’s willing to communicate and to have sex for mutual pleasure
Men need control above all, but also a good amount of knowledge/skill especially if with a nervous uncommunicative partner.
Women on the other hand only need enthusiasm! (Be an active participant, hold on to him, move around, tell him what he’s doing right and to do that more. If you are enjoying yourself really let that show.) If you do that he will feel great, like he’s really achieved something! But you must make sure you tell him what feels good and what you want, so you dont have to act.
Men are very easy to please.
In order to be good in bed you need to be empathetic and derive pleasure from your partners pleasure.
Passionate sex between 2 people in love outshines every other important factor, but from what I know actual experience in bed doesn’t mean anything after a certain point of having sex. After you’ve gotten accustomed to it, further experience doesn’t make you better. Maybe if you experiment a lot yes, but if you’re repeating the same thing over and over again, you’re not getting any better (as any other skill basically) no matter how many partners or sex you previously had.
So, other things are:
1. Confidence
2. Genuine curiosity with experimentation
3. Communication
4. Willingness to satisfy
That’s my take on it. And I believe it’s very similar to what most people say. And this is for both genders.
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