I (19M) am a second year undergraduate and she is a friend I met in my first year. For a little background this friend is on antidepressants and other medications and has some sort of hatred towards men. She’s already had little outbursts where she doesn’t see me as her friend anymore but as a man and therefore starts to be mean to me. I let it go after some discussions and I think that antidepressants, pill and all the other stuff can make her change her mood quickly. To get to the point, lately she started to block me little by little on social media where we were talking and I didn’t try to add her back because I was a bit pissed off by this behavior. I decided to send her a message on WhatsApp a few days later (at that time it’s vacations so I don’t have the opportunity to see her in real life) to ask her why she blocked me, if I had said/done something wrong and trying to add a little touch of humor. She then answered me in a demeaning and a little bit humiliating way and asked me not to answer her. So I didn’t answer her since I thought it wouldn’t add anything to the discussion.
Is there any reason why she acts like this? If I should confront her? If I have to stop this friendship if she doesn’t apologize / fix things. For the moment I am still on vacation for another two weeks. But after this vacation we have our midterms and I’m not sure I want to bring all this up during my midterms
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You should distance yourself from her, she sounds way too comfortable talking down to you and you shoildnt subject yourself to misandry. She sounds like she has a lot of issues she needs to work out on her own before she can be a good friend.
I’d avoid her from now on. As you said, nothing you would say would add anything because the issue is simply that she is mean. I also wouldn’t make excuses for her – “every villain has a tragic backstory” – but right now SHE is being the bad guy.
If you are part of a group of friends, you can still do that, just avoid interaction with her unless necessary. Don’t make it awkward by not saying “hello” back or stuff like that, but don’t contact unless necessary, either.