I have no desire to reach out to these people so I don’t even bother texting them. I know we’re not close and we don’t have to be in each other’s spheres so saying things like this confuses me. I don’t get why these two people will tell me, why don’t you text me or text me even though i’ll take forever to answer but they’ll never reach out to me first. It doesn’t bother me that they don’t talk to me. I’m super busy and we aren’t close anyway but what do they get out of saying things like this?
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hard to say, maybe they like you more than you like them, maybe they feel entitled to your attention, maybe they feel like they are the ones always reaching out and want you to reach out more often, or they want to guilt you. If you do not want to be in contact with people you can just block them, or ignore them and move on. There is also no shame in being honest and calling it out. But it really depends on what result you want and how much energy you want to put into it.
Whenever people confront you on your messaging habits, it is a passive means of seeking more attention and validation from you. Typically, this happens if you are their only social option and they have nobody else in their life to talk to. Set boundaries or stop talking to them. They have to learn by action that they cannot become codependent, needy, clingy, or desperate for your time and attention. You aren’t responsible for managing their life.