Me and my partner tried some typical sex acts very commonly shown in porn, and they sucked, i heard a lot of my friends tell me that they did things like this regularly and that they were amazing and stuff.
Idk i just didn’t know what i was expecting, we did this things (everything consensually of course, we talked about this before) and after we did it we just sort of looked at each other and i felt this weird and uncomfortable vibe, idk, i always thought of myself as a kinky person or whatever but actually doing this things really left me feeling uncomfortable.
(I know that porn isn’t real, just that friends have told me certain things were cool, and i wanted to try)
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People learn from porn. It’s not that the porn behavior is especially good sex, they just don’t have any other frame of reference lol
That is a shame. What did you do that freaked you out, so much? I had a girlfriend who enjoyed sex the most when she was letting loose with stage name and persona in front of the camera. It may have been homemade, but it was real porn once someone else watched it.
nothing that doesnt turn *you* on is gonna feel good
you shouldnt try new things *just* because someone else had fun doing them, you should try things because they seem interesting to you and your partner
Kinky stuff isn’t for everyone. It’s good you at least tried though so you can find out what you’ll do and don’t ont like
Porn isn’t real sex. Your friends will say shit like that because they too think porn is real sex. They probably don’t know any better but now you do. Porn is acting, the women act as if they like it and it’s full of editing and after effects.
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Porn should only ever be used for reference. But maybe they meant taking video…which is something else i also don’t like
What kind of acts do you mean? But yes porn doesn’t always represent sex all that well, some people genuinely like things like anal, facials or hard PIV pounding, but some don’t.
Well now you know. Sometimes you just have to try different things to find what you like.
What was the acts that you 2 tried?
Each person has their likes and dislikes. Also people view certain acts in different ways.
We don’t all like the same things, if it’s not for you that’s 100% fine. If your friends like it, also fine.
We don’t pick what we like, no reason to have harsh judgments about it.
The fantasy of porn is a total lack of inhibitions with everything somehow going smoothly. That and a LOT of it is playing to a superficial egocentric “desires” of sex (which is why there’s a leaning towards things being fast, rough, degrading, etc)
And while aspects of that CAN be something some people enjoy it’s very much not a one size fits all thing. You both figured that out, and hey it’s nice you were both open to trying and hopefully talking out things you liked and didn’t like after
Ron Jeremy said if it looked good on video it felt bad and if it looks bad it felt good
I think you need to find the stuff in porn sexy first or it has no chance of working.
Porn usually doesn’t represent “real life” sex and can lead to having high expectations because pornstars have to act like they are enjoying it very much and there is a lot of fake moaning etc. Every person has different kinks and if those things from porn just don’t work for you or turn you on it doesn’t matter. You and your partner tried something new, you didn’t enjoy it but that is okay. Eventually you will find things that you both enjoy, you just need to communicate about your feelings, likes and dislikes about sex.
Ever see Rocky? The movie? Real boxing does not look like that. Same thing with porn and sex. Visual vs real.
There is nothing wrong with trying it and not liking it. It’s how you learn what you DO like.
First off… Trying to perform the way those people do, seems like setting yourself up for failure.
I had always wondered about how it would be to do some of those things but it seemed like way too much work. Some of the positions I add them get into I am amazed that there are not more “workplace injuries” on porn shoots.
“The Helicopter” That shit makes me laugh/cringe every time I hear someone say they want to try it.
Cool story! Wo stuff are things and stuff!
Most times they do things in porn because of the camera shot
Porn style? Oh you guys do not do it this way all the time? What other ways are there? Just kidding lmao.
Im so confused on how anything described by OP is “porn style”.
Like.. whats your typical sex look like? .. No lights, closed eyes, quiet, condom on..couple soft slides.. pull out, cum, straight to shower?
Im not picking on you, or making fun or ridiculing you.. please… i have to know.. what sex is more basic and “not porn style” than what you described as..well… my highschool days..
Porn can be inspiration, but porn should never be replicated on a 1:1 scale
A lot of things in porn are optimized for being fun to watch rather than for being fun to do, sometimes what looks great on camera is actually an uncomfortable position or one that just doesn’t offer much stimulation
“typical sex acts very commonly shown in porn”
…..so like eating a girl out, blowjobs, missionary, doggy style, girl on top…all that sucks to you? dont really understand what typical sex acts common in porn you are referring to.
and if those suck to you, whats typical in YOUR sex life o__O