So here’s a little back story: I have many sexual experiences prior our relationship but as for my partner (28M), I’m the first person who he got past into 3rd base. we’ve been together for 5 years now. last year, I accidentally discovered that he is actively into watching porn and scandals which I have no problem because our sex life is good and he has a higher libido than mine most of the time.. although it has quiet bothered me at first but all good now. I’ve always been open to him about sexual stuffs; porn, my sexual experiences, fantasies and I also opened to him what kind of sexual fantasies he thinks he likes to which he always answers he doesn’t entirely know since i’m the first person he’s experienced sexual stuff with but says that he’s okay with exploring some of it, I guess there’s a part of me that feels that there’s something more but he’s just too shy to ask and open about it.
fast forward to now, I feel like we haven’t explored much even though i’ve been dropping hints and asking him about it. I guess because we’re pretty much busy with work and can only do stuff whenever there is free time or whenever my son is not around so I think that adds to it. also, he’s more of a spontaneous kind of person when it comes to those things as he likes to keep it real and not base it on the things he’s watched (.. I find that sweet of course. but yeah, I just feel like there are some unsaid things when it comes to sex, I feel like he isn’t as comfortable as opening up about it, I don’t want to push the conversation as well everytime, I still find him finding ways to hide what he’s watching so yeah you know although we said we’re open, I still feel like we’re just in the >50% part of it. on another note, we are still crazy for each other sexually and still active.
I’d really like to get advise and opinion on how I can deal with this.
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Stop dropping hints and be direct. Problem solved.