TLDR: recent ex and best friend hooked up, hoping to keep my friendship with both
Me (23 NB) and my ex (23F) broke up a little less than two months ago after being together for 3 years. It was very amicable/mutual/had-been-a-long-time-coming and we wanted to stay friends and apart of each other’s lives, and this had been going really well, but my best friend (22M) told me that they hooked up this past weekend and that he is going to visit her after the holidays.
She ended up calling me later that same day and it was on my mind so I couldn’t help but bring it up and told her how it really hurt me. She said that she understands why I’m hurt, but didn’t want to talk about it because she didn’t want to feel guilty, and said that if I didn’t want to be hurt going forward, I should just keep out of the loop and not bring it up any more.
She still wants to be friends and I want that too ultimately (with both of them), but I think it would be really weird and difficult to hang out with them and be expected to keep these feelings to myself as if it’s not an awkward and painful situation for me.
Right now I feel like I will inevitably lose both of them and become more lost and alone than I already am
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So what stands out to me here is this:
>She said that she understands why I’m hurt, but didn’t want to talk about it because she didn’t want to feel guilty
So basically, only *her* feelings matter to her. Let that sink in real deep and either cut her off or knock her down to an acquaintance level friend. Cause she does *not* care.
Neither does he if he’s sleeping with your best friend.