So, to give you some context, my GF (21) and I (21 M) are very open and honnest in our relationship. I’m her fifth bf but she never tried anything involving more than 2 people. I, on the other hand, had the pleasure of having sex with 8 people simultaneously.
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However, I did’nt care back then, because I wasn’t in love.
Now, I really love my gf, and we’re both equally interested in throwing her a gangbang. However, she isn’t at ease with the idea of going to a club to get things started on a simpler base. If the gangbang ever happened, she wants to go all in for it.
Even though I’m really turned on by this idea (even after Jacking Off, PNC ofc), sometimes, I can feel a little pinch of jealousy in my guts. It does not last that much, but sometimes the idea of her getting railed isn’t that appealing , what can I do ?
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Edit : Thank you for all your answers. As of today, I decided to wait until I was happy with myself, my look, skills and innerself. Moreover, I reached out to her and shared my doubts and we agreed to keep things as they are for the moment. forever or at least until we’re both 100% sure (and experienced) we want to do this.
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It’s very common to be turned on by the idea of something but the rational brain knows you won’t like the fallout from actually doing it.
You can derive pleasure from the fantasy by simulating the experience somehow – maybe keep some video running in the background, use appropriate toys, etc. based on what your partner is ok with.
Then don’t do it.
Too many people think they can do this stuff because of main character syndrome. Not pointing fingers or saying its the case here, I’m just highlighting a common theme after seeing this kind of query a few times here.
When the hung product of six workouts per week split between resistance training and cardio, tears their shirt off and rapid-fire nails your partner into a blushed happy scream of a sweaty mess as she completely gives herself to this utter Dom for half an hour in positions she didn’t know existed without letting up and you come along to have to carry her home and match it (once she can walk again), you might feel worse if you can’t than you do already just *thinking* about it.
You can’t just do this stuff unless you can *meat* the requirements for it as a man.
Again, not saying you can’t, just highlighting a common theme.
Don’t do it. Her having sex with complete strangers will ruin the relationship on your end since you mention jealousy. You are in love with her and be glad for what you currently have.
Take some smaller steps in order to expose yourselves gradually and build up to it.
Bro this is really a big thing you are trying to do.. Playing with fire is easier Said than done And on the fact she Said she will go all in .. Girls get addicted bro once they broke of their shell and you are helping her.. Good luck broo
If you any doubt, even the tiniest amount, the. It’s not for you
As you said you weren’t in love last time and this time you are, it will end in tears, you’re probably
Gotta let you know, organizing a gang bang I’d harder than you think. Dudes are flakes.
See you in about a month
“My gf and I did a gangbang and I deeply regret it. Cant get the picture of her orgasming while on top of another guy out of my head, help!”
I think if you are feeling jealous its time to stop, i see these posts in here every day of other folks who are all for it until it happens, especially if you are feeling it now.
But hey, if thats your cuppa all the power to you guys.
Personally im exclusive and i know this could seem like projection of my feelings, but im not against others doing fun stuffs, but if you are feeling that way before you do it that seems like a gut feeling to me
Hope you get it all sorted out for yourself!
Don’t be sharing ur girl bro.. it’s different if it’s some chick you don’t even no but that’s your women. If she wants to do it then she ain’t for you.
In college I figured out I was strictly a 1 on 1 kinda girl. Got invited by my girlfriend at the time to join her and her boyfriend. I was lonely, high, and they were fun. It was fine until I sucked him so good he finished early and I swallowed him. Evidently my girlfriend never let him finish in her mouth and she really didn’t like that I set a new standard. It ruined our friendship.
These are the unforeseen things that can happen when you bring in 3rds or more.
Let yourself feel jealousy. It’s all part of what makes it so hot. Watch her suck other men’s dicks and get pounded hard by multiple men, and feel soooooooo jealous. Then afterwards, spend time alone with her and heal. That will be true intimacy. It’s not for everyone but it can be hot as hell, and great for your sex lives. Either embrace the “cuck” or join in. It’s all good.
Maybe try a few 2 Male Threesomes and see how you feel after that. Then if you still feel jealous and regret it then don’t proceed. Rather than just jumping straight into a gangbang
Listen to your gut feeling bud, don’t ruin what you have over some sex. And maybe let your gf know about these feelings sooner than later
Test the waters with smaller stuff. If you’re in a bigger city and have access to a group play space (like oasis in Toronto) you can be in that environment and see how it feels. Can start with non- participatory group stuff and go from there.
Clear boundaries are key, and not overriding them in the heat of the moment.
you should check out r/cuckoldpsychology to help you deal with any jealousy issues.
i reckon the jealousy is part of the kink?
maybe she wants to go all out so she can check it off her bucket list and her intention is to only do it once? would kind of make sense to starr with 3, then progress but maybe she is an overachiever?
slow the fuck down home boi. stop.
trust me you don’t want to do the possible mother of your children carry her 5 year old girl and walk into one of those guys in a fucking supermarket. don’t do it
What exactly jealousy is for you?
My husband is jealous, but he gets energy from that. He likes some competition, or teasing each other.
So he is very encouraging to experiment with my sexuality.
And one more thing.
I don’t know where are you from and what’s your life situation, but 21 is very young. When I was 21,my mindset was quite different from what’s now. I understood myself much less, and jealousy was coming from lack of my inner connection with myself, therefore I was less confident. So what I’d do now differently as a couple, is that I’d talk deeper to each other, and agree that we’re a team and do things together for mutual fun and satisfaction.
Also, talk about boundaries and how would you act if a boundary is accidentally broken.
It’s not a good idea if you have any doubt there is your answer …No
be strong in relationship first,, at the end of the day its just another experience, if you are sharing it and open to that ,, you should be ok,,, been there.. You guys got this…
You need to sit down and have a open conversation about the issue or else this is going to end badly
Don’t do it. If you’re having doubts sincerely don’t do it. Will only make things worse
If you’re going to be jealous, do not do it. Some fantasies are best to remain fantasies.