A couple weeks ago I hung out with someone one-on-one and it went better than expectations. I asked if he wanted to meet again which he responded sure. A couple of weeks later I gave my availability and asking if he wanted to meet up again. There hasn’t been a response since. I know that there is a 70% chance that he’s just busy, but I can’t help but feel rejected.
I can’t stop thinking about how maybe in the meet up I gave a bad impression or if I said something off putting. I admit I’m prob overthinking it and my low self-esteem causing this.
But I don’t know what to do to feel better. I know it’s wrong, but I can’t stop thinking about how reaching out again was a mistake and someone like me is just not worth his time or that something is unlikeable about me.
Any advice?
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You asked to see him again, got a firm positive, then took weeks to give your availability. Tardiness gives the impression that you are not really keen on the idea. It was your idea to progress further this yet it seems that you dont want to be the one to make any decision. Thats where you fell down.
Ask yourself something. Why is it this friends of yours easily moved on from you, but you can’t do the same ? You really need to start getting busy in your life and start talking to other people. Never make one person or few people your only social option. It almost always doesn’t end well. If you make these friends your only social options, you run the risk of acting needy and clingy for their time and attention. They will lose respect for you and avoid you. Friendships are not codependent relationships. You should have other things going on in life or other people to talk to besides this one friend.
Also read this, it describes how you come off to people when you are constantly anxious and overthinking things like this: https://www.reddit.com/r/socialskills/comments/we54zy/big_tip_to_reduce_your_social_anxiety_and_why/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf