Okay so to preface, my boyfriend and I are both 17 and have been together for a few months now, and when we first got together we talked briefly about sex but knew neither of us were comfortable yet, so we pushed it to the side to focus on other things.
I’ve had sex before but not really,, it wasn’t under the greatest circumstance and only once with one person so I consider myself inexperienced at best. He’s never had sex at all, and I’m his first girlfriend.
Today we got to talking and he said he was ready to talk about it, but I don’t really know where to start ??? I literally thought I was ready but now I don’t know where to start. I really like this guy and want him to be comfortable but I also want him to know that I want him.
How do you guys start conversations about sex ? Is there really anyway to start ? What do I even say ??
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Sounds like you need to start with “I’m not ready yet”
You start with ‘I thought I was ready but actually I don’t think I am right now’ and then you can let the conversation flow from there. Discuss your reasons why you are not sure.
Be honest and genuine!
Well, if you genuinely aren’t ready to talk about it then tell him that and give yourself some more time. But if you do want to talk about and don’t know what to talk about regarding sex, I’d say you both should set your boundaries for each other, if there is any. And be sure to communicate with each other about it often. Ask what he likes and when it would be okay for you or him to initiate anything with each other. Maybe even make plans for your first time. Just remember to be safe and have fun