I’m (f19) talking to someone online (m20) over messenger and we’ve been flirting with each other and we both exchanged pictures. He now says he’s in love with me and wants me to be his forever person. We’ve only been talking for about a month. We don’t really talk about things besides his interests and how much he likes me. We don’t really joke around and honestly I don’t feel like we click well. He has sort of an npc personality if that makes sense? I kept talking to him because he first sounded interesting, I was sexually attracted to him, and he’s near. I honestly just wanted to have sex with him. I think I feel some sort of pressure because I’m still a virgin whose never been in a relationship before. It’s not like I’m unattractive or anything. I was just socially inept and weird in HS. Since I had a glow-up mentally and physically I really want a relationship. I guess I just want to feel loved and normal now.
How should I respond to this guy? He seems pretty clingy and almost obsessive. I just feel like he only likes me for my looks because he only got weird after I sent some pictures (nothing inappropriate.) I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want to sound mean because it just feels like I’ve been leading this guy on. Right now I’m ignoring him so he won’t see I saw his messages despite me being able to view them in my notifications. He’s saying how lucky he is to have me and has no idea why I would want him, and how happy he is that I want him back. And to be fair I did say I liked him and how I thought he was handsome, but I didn’t mean it in such an extreme context. What should I say to him back after he said all that? I don’t want to be mean or rude.
TLDR: Man I’ve been talking to for a month says he’s in love with me. We’ve been planning on meeting up, but now I’m having second thoughts after he said that. He doesn’t know anything about me or my personality despite him saying I have an amazing one (I’m just nice to him.) Never had a bf so I don’t know what to do or what’s normal.
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Good thing you can recognise it’s not really normal for someone to love you without knowing you.
He is probably excited and having all these warm feelings inside that he cannot put into words, however it’s a bit of a red flag to say that he loves you.
Whatever you decide to do, proceed with caution.
This doesn’t sound healthy or normal. Let him down gently and walk away. Too many red flags 🚩 for me.