Let me start off by saying I (22m)absolutely adore and love my gf (19). We started dating about a year ago and really hit it off. We signed a lease together last month for a few months’ lease since I have to stay in town a little while longer for work but plan on moving away. Without giving to much information, this is her first serious relationship and I feel uneasy about asking her to move across the country with me since she’s younger than me. She came from a small town and I from the city. She expressed how much she hates traffic and bigger city’s. She hasn’t done a lot of adventurous things and I do, she is willing to do certain things but I just don’t want to “abandon” her if she really doesn’t want to try. I am trying to get her to visit my city at some point with me to see if she likes it or is willing to try adapting to a different way of life.
We have kinda started talking about next steps, kids marriage, etc. Not in depth but a mention of those things here or there. She is religious and I am not. My parents have met her and hung out after my graduation. They like her but they expect more from me being the first child. They married late and expect the same from me. I’m not looking to rush into a family but I’m also not trying to wait as long as they did.
My work pays well and as I progress I’ll make better money and hours. It’s difficult early on for time off and holidays which is needed when starting a family and such.
I’m not trying to justify one thing or another, just get voices from who have been in different scenarios. All my friends are single and most of them are nice guys but most times they find ways to be dicks. I have no married friends so not a whole lot of people to talk with and just listen. I’ll update with more info if I forgot anything thats pertinent. Thanks in advance and happy holidays all!