I (21F) have been seeing a (26M) I met on tinder back in October. I own a house and he lives with his sister because he has seizures. She drives him to work and his really isn’t supposed to be driving at all.
Since the beginning, he would drive over just to cuddle. We do have sex but we don’t always and he genuinely comes over just to cuddle. Majority of the time he stays the night. He stays the night when he works from home the next day.
He’s been coming over more often than he used to. He’s very affectionate. He kisses my forehead and face and holds me all night long. He shares things he’s passionate about with me like football and movie series. He tries to make me laugh and is very nice.
Long story short, we been spending more and more time together every week. The sex is great. He isn’t supposed to be driving bc he could have a seizure at any moment but comes anyway. He said he doesn’t want a girlfriend and doesn’t want to date just to date at his age. (I think that means he just doesn’t want to date me haha). He texts me on days we aren’t going to see each other, sends me memes, and random updates about work. He didn’t do this before. Lately he’s been constant calling me cute and funny.
I have a career, own a house, own a car, have a dog, and take care of all of my adult responsibilities so the age gap is no issue at all.
TDLR: FWB coming to see me more often, texting me more often, doesn’t mind spending time with me without sex, and is complimenting me more when he never used to. He has seizures and isn’t supposed to be driving but is always eager to drive to see me. However, he said he doesn’t want a girlfriend and seems pretty certain about it. Is he getting emotionally attached?
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>Is he getting emotionally attached?
Sounds like he’s pretty clear about his boundaries and you’re the one getting attached.
He your FWB why is this a question. Let it go now before you play yourself.
I think he’s a slow burner and it’s really up to you whether you want to take things further or accept the situationship for what it is atm.
He may want to firm things up soon but atm he’s getting some clear benefits and tbh Tinder is about this type of “try before you buy “ culture.
Don’t overthink or pressure him on this or he could just skip off the hook.
Have an awesome festive weekend buddy and enjoy your fwb for what it is.
I’m stuck on the driving. This is dangerous. He shouldn’t be driving anywhere. Would it be worth it if / when he has a seizure while driving and ruins an innocent life?
He likes you enough to fuck you. Did you forget the friends part of fwbs?
*He does not want a girlfriend. He sounds like a decent friend.*
Listen to what he says. Enjoying your company and enjoying the sex doesn’t mean he wants a relationship.