Anyone ever date 10 years older?

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1. When I was 16 I dated a guy in his 30’s. He would always come into the coffee shop I worked at and flirt with me so one day I went on a hike with him after my shift and gave him head on top of a mountain. We dated for almost a year after that.

2. 41 M. We aren’t official, but I’m seeing a 32 F. I’ll be 42 in a couple of weeks, so there are about ten years between us. For the most part it works out pretty well. We vibe really well together, and in general the age gap isn’t a problem.

   Only thing I do is I try to stay away from references to my 1980’s childhood. I’m born in January of 1981, and she’s November of 1990. In general I’m REALLY proud of being an 80’s kid. But I’ll never mention something such as the Challenger blowing up (which I remember) in front of her, because it dates me. The first time we went up she asked me how old I was, and I answered truthfully. So she’s keenly aware of the gap, I just see no reason to bring it up unless it’s absolutely necessary.

3. Yes. It can be great. They have their shit together and are usually past the hookup/party phase. But they can also come with a lot of baggage, divorces, kids, and they might look at you as more of a “hot, young thing” than an actual partner. As long as you’re older than 21 at the earliest, it could be fine. Make sure to watch out for guys who try to parent you or control you

4. I didn’t date 10 years, but when I was a 20M, I dated a 27F. She was easily the brightest woman I will ever meet, gorgeous too (an actress who never became famous).. It was fun, uplifting, but waitresses were brazen trying to steal me away from her! As a man, I was never pursued by so many women from age 16 to 43. At museums or classical music concerts women would see us together and then stalk me. After the first time this happened, she started wearing very deep cut tops instead of conservative tops. Eventually she realized I wouldn’t be distracted by other women, but that I was distracted bt her new outfits, so they became even more daring.

   I loved the conversations and company. We lost hours chatting, holding hands, and just carrying on in public. We broke up over religious differences. We never slept together due to her religion.

   I’ve never cheated. Not once. I admit to enjoying the attention though.

   I should note that at age 20, I looked like a baby faced 16 year old football player.

5. i ‘dated’ a guy 12 years older at 18. was about what you expect