Heya, so we (i, 25M her 26F) used to date like for 8or 9 dates. In the beginning when I felt really good and was in an emotional very good state we hit it off really well, we went to bed really early and felt really comfortable . But the for personal reasons I had a ton of stress and because It was too early after my ex I was looking for connection too much so it didn’t work out.
Now I had always in my head that if I get my shit in order(finish my thesis, get a job(I’m in a very good sector so it’ll come fast) and my own place and fix my ex issues) I would send her a text and if she’s up for it start things over and see where it goes because I really really liked her.
Now I saw her in the pub because we live close and she waved at me twice but I didn’t have the balls to go talk to her because she was with a friend and I dont want to start things at this moment because I need to get my shit together. But now I regret not going up and talking to her. Should I send her a text or stick to my plan of waiting until I get my shit together ?
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Yea do it
Only you can decide if you are mentally in a state to date again.
“getting your shit together” with a job and such is a really vague thing that never truly happens.
If you are mentally healthy enough for a relationship the answer is yes talk to her.
If you are not over your ex and not ready then the answer is no.
And you are the only one who can answer that question for yourself.