My husband and I have been together for 7 years. We got married back in 2020. Right before we got married we were technically on a break… and I started seeing someone.
My husband had always thought that he was the only one I had even had sex with. This has always been important to him because we lost our v cards to each other and I have been his one and only partner ever in bed.
I knew it would have devastated him if I told him I slept with someone else. I knew he would not have married me if I had told him the truth. So I kept the secret from him. I lied to him and kept quiet every single time he asked me about the other guy.
I’ve been really unhappy lately and I had felt like our marriage was not working out. We would have really good sex only a couple of times a month but constant fights every single day. I don’t know what got a hold of me today.. when we were arguing I told him I wasn’t happy, he asked me about the other guy, yet again, and I told him I had slept with him.
My husband is heartbroken. He says he still loves me, but that he never wants to touch me ever again. He asked for space and asked for me to leave the house with our baby for a day or two while he thinks things through. He doesn’t want to divorce me and he wants to try to make things work for our family.. but I can feel his resentment towards me. A part of me feels relieved now that he knows but I also feel terrible for keeping this secret for so long.
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I don’t know why people have unreasonable expectations. Not together, on a break means you can do what you want. To think that on a break you should be saving yourself for him is silly.
I have no idea who my wife slept with before me or what her body count is.
You weren’t together and it was seven years ago. Don’t beat yourself up. He’s being immature.
Get counseling if necessary.