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I figured I’d still update since I’m happy about the resolution.
I addressed the thievery with Jude and let him know that it needed to stop and I was happy to buy him whatever he wanted in his own sizes. Nothing would ever be off the table as long as he let me know what it was he needed. I even offered to just give money so he could buy it alone. Jude cried/apologised, hugged me and thanked me for doing that for him but asked if we could go shopping together and just have a day. I took Jude shopping and he picked out makeup, clothing and other things they’ve been wanting. We went and got our hair and nails done and it was an absolutely wonderful self care day. I let him know at the end of the day that he could talk to me about anything because again, my love is unconditional. The stealing has stopped and it seems like Jude is doing better.
just adding: I didn’t want to talk about whether or not Jude might be trans because I didn’t want to label it for him. As someone said that’s his journey to define, not mine. I did, however, offer to get Jude into therapy if he liked. It would be an LGBTQ+ friendly therapist. He agreed that it would be nice if I could do that for him.
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This is so wholesome. Best update ever.
Awesome
This is beautiful. It may also be helpful to Jude if you started to use, them / they pronouns. Whatever They decide, you are a wonderful Sister. Love to you both.
This made me smile! Retail therapy is the best therapy and a mani-pedi is like the cherry on top of a perfect day.
Sounds like you’ve done the right thing. Well done!
So is your sibling trans, into drag, or likes cross-dressing?
Everyone could use a sister like you
You are such a good person 🙂
Oh wow, if only all queer/questioning kids could have guardian like you! Thank you so much for being compassionate and understanding!
You are a good person. 💛
Such a sweet post. Thank you kind person
It’s so wonderful to read about such a beautiful heart! Your sibling is lucky to have such an amazing person in their life. ❤️
What a wonderfully supportive sibling/guardian you are, and I’m so happy for Jude that they have an unconditionally loving mentor in their life. You are saving a life and building a better world for them and for others in the same boat. I hope Jude feels more comfortable in their own skin and can be a happy, young adult.
You are a wonderful guardian and whatever Jude’s identity, I’m so happy knowing there’s a kid out there (two really) that know they don’t have to be afraid of who they are. You’re killing it!