Ok so recently i (24M) have been engaged to my girlfriend since college and we’re about to be married next summer, i really love her and would make anything to make her happy especially in bed.
Please note that both of us grew up religious so we’re both virgins and don’t have any experience.
My problem is that i cum quickly when i jerk off (within 2 minutes).
Any recommendations?
I also heard that i might last longer if i have sex since the simulation inside the vagina is less intense than rubbing with your hand, is that also true?
I know that some delay products like gel or spray would help but I would like to hear your thoughts.
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You could get a delaying lube looks like there’s alot of them to try
One important thing to remember is that sex doesn’t have to end because someone came. Take a break, have a snack, cuddle, whatever, then maybe round two, three, and so on.. Other alternatives, if you’re both comfortable with it, give the other the full attention, oral, fingering/jerking off, maybe just making out, etc..
Since you’re both virgins, maybe just set aside time to just explore each others bodies, without necessarily advancing to sex. Bodies are wonderful things, and just learning about the other persons nooks and cracks can be great fun.
Most important, communicate. Try to be as open as possible about, well, everything, but especially about that you’re both inexperienced.
First of all, don’t worry. Most of the guys I’ve been with cum in a few minutes when masturbating or getting handjobs, but usually last a little bit longer in the intercourse itself. And most of the passionate intercourses I’ve had last like 5 minutes tops anyway. Most of the time goes into cuddling and foreplay.
Practice edging. You’ll learn to control your threshold and last longer.
the first time my boyfriend & i ever had sex (both virgins), he came within 6 strokes… since then has been longer so dont be afraid if your first is like that. also, dont fall in to death grip syndrome bc (although i doubt this would occur until maybe later in the relationship) it would be very disappointing if you didnt come at all lol. dont try any sort products until you know its a problem (after you have sex with her a few times)
No need to worry about the gels etc, just change the way you jerk off. You want to start edging instead.
Stop having 2 minutes sessions and increase the time.. I’d aim for 10 minutes to begin with.. start off slow and then get yourself sort of close, then slow it back down again. If you feel like you’re getting close to the point of no return then you might have to stop touching it completely for 30 seconds or so then get going again slowly, you basically want to do whatever you can to get to that 10 minutes (or as close as you can). Then once you feel like you’re confident you can go 10 minutes, increase the time to 15/20 mins. You’re basically stopping your cock and mind from being used to having quick tugs and getting them used to going for longer. This way when it comes to sex you’ll be feeling confident that you can last as long as you need to.
Another thing you can do is start working on kegels and reverse kegels, these work the muscles in your cock and can be a game changer once you build them up. There’s and app you can get called ‘Stamena’ which is great for this.