Hey guys I’m 21. A female. I have a boyfriend but my sex drive is way higher then his. I love nipple sucking. Having mine sucked. Squrting. Telling me when and when not to cum. I feel like I want a Dom. But I don’t know where to start. My nippples are the most sensitive place and I love pleasing my boyfriend. Watching him squirm and cum. Makes me so wet. But he doesn’t like it as much. As me. I try to randomly give him head. Or playing with my pussy and nipples but he will walk right past. I don’t know. Maybe it’s me. But I love to sub. And do what I’m told.
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Sounds like you need a dom. I just found out my wife is a sub so I’m learning how to be a dom to please her.
Sweetheart I’m not gonna lie I wish you was my woman. The one I got makes giving head seem like a chore, and when I go down and eat, I do it for my own pleasure and she used to loves it. when I try to take charge she overpowers me I can’t even try to suck on nipples. She block me every time. I used to be able to get her to squirt but now it seems like it takes forever for her to come. I’m starting to think she’s not interested in me anymore but I don’t know but I understand and I feel where you’re coming from. I just wish I was your Man you be in paradise right about now
I really struggle to squirt, but can *occasionally* do it while being fisted if I’ve taken some ecstasy. The first time I managed to do it (after years of “trying to relax”), was while making out with a friend, while my SO fisted me on a couch. I suddenly felt like my vagina was weirdly wet, and when I looked down I’d missed the moment, but my husband was sitting with his hand still inside me and this windblown look as my juices dripped off his face and everything behind him.
Staying hydrated also helps. If I don’t drink enough I can only squirt a few blasts. Otherwise it can go on for quite a while. We always have some water by the bed within easy reach.
As for your partner. 2-3 big possibilities jump to mind. 1-2 Might be that it’s not really his kink. So he might be thinking “oh god, not this chore again!” or “but what if I hurt her!?” and either of those might make him less interested in engaging. I had to give my partner very specific lessons on where to hold my neck to not hurt me, but help me orgasm crazy hard (practically on command), and mentioned some actors who gave really good vibes/examples of what I’m into (some pretty creepy villains which he emulates wonderfully for me in the bedroom, but which are not what I’d want in our daily life and are thankfully nothing like his real personality).
The other possibility is that maybe his libido is different from yours. Maybe he’s asexual, dealing with some other stress, or not feeling like you’re putting effort into his wants/kinks. My partner’s libido is often pretty different from mine, so I’ve been given specific instructions/examples for what gives him an instant boner and desire to play with me, so that’ he’s not forced to only do things I’m into. We kinda try to take turns because he doesn’t have the interest/energy to do rape play or dom-type activities *every* time we fuck.
The book [Crucial Conversations](https://wisewords.blog/book-summaries/crucial-conversations-book-summary/) is useful for a ton of different situations and relationship types (including relatives, bosses, school staff, and co-workers), but it sounds like it might help you two out as well.