How did your last relationship affect what you want for your next one?

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1. It didn’t

2. I want somebody with no mental illnesses for my next one

3. I’d never seek another relationship after my current fucked up one.

4. It’s going to be a long time before I let anyone in again, if ever. Not necessarily because it was fucked up, but because it was so deep and passionate and she died, so definitely had to be someone in friends with first.

5. My last relationship taught me the difference between caring for someone, versus being a *caretaker*. It’s a bad idea to trade your own mental health for someone else’s.

6. My previous relationship laid out the blueprint of what I expect going forward. She treated me great and was a solid woman. Her cooking skills asmr skills were top notch.

7. My answer, for solidarity: my last girlfriend had an amazing sense of empathy that I definitely want to see matched in my next relationship. But she also had issues with self doubt and anxiety that slowly tore us down over the years. My main thing I catch myself looking for now is confidence.

8. She didn’t impact it as much as offer the exact opposite of what I wanted (and currently have) in a partner.

   The difference is astounding.

9. Being with someone that *needs* to be with you makes you appreciate when someone *wants* to be with you.

10. ngl made me never want to be in another one again. being with a compulsive liar will do that to you.

11. It was absolute hell, so I now have a list of boundaries and deal breakers that I absolutely will not negotiate.

12. Made me want to never have another relationship in my life and focus on career and hobbys

13. To be honest I’d settle for not being insulted outright to my face.

14. We started dating a few days after meeting and she had almost exclusively male friends. Never making those mistakes ever again.

15. Mostly trust issues.