A conversation can last for 30 seconds or 2 hours. It doesn’t matter. The thing is, you’ll need enough to talk about for the duration of that time. A simple trick to never running out of things to say is ending the conversation before you run out of things to say.
Let’s say you meet an attractive person out in public. The chemistry is good and the both of you are vibing. I suggest keeping conversations short and sweet. If the chemistry is there, get contact information to continue the conversation and possibly go out for drinks or on a date at a future time.
# Use The Situation As An Ice Breaker
Sometimes starting a conversation is harder than keeping the conversation going, but when you use the situation, you will notice how easy a conversation can get started.
**Someone at the vending machine**
*You see someone having trouble making a decision on what snack they want…*
You: “It’s like picking a college, isn’t it?”
**Someone on the line at a fast food restaurant**
*You see someone trying to decide on what they want to eat*
You: “I recommend the #7. I had it yesterday and it was amazing.
Side note: I was at a restaurant and there was a gentleman who couldn’t decide what he wanted to eat. I told him to try the B.L.T (Bacon Lettuce Tomato Sandwich). It was the same thing I was getting. I told him the bacon was really good. He got it and the both of us were talking the whole time until our food came. He said the sandwich WAS good by the way.
**A cashier who looks like they’re having a bad day and has major Resting Bitch Face**
You: “Having a rough day? Don’t worry, I’ll be your easy customer”
I can go into a ton of different scenarios and give an example of situational lines that will break the ice. Sometimes people don’t feel like talking. That situational line could be the start and end of the conversation. Don’t feel like you have to build rapport with everyone. Some people are shy, some people are attitudinal, some people are bubbly and friendly. Each person in front of you will decide if it’s gonna be a dialog or a monologue. Sometimes that person having a bad day might cheer up once you start talking to them. There have been times when someone had a bad day one day, and the next time I saw them they were friendly. Sometimes Resting Bitch Face gets confused with “leave me alone”, but when you talk to them, they are really friendly.
What are your thoughts?
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True, starting a conversation is way harder than keeping it going. And it’s funny because we all have so many thoughts and experiences but in a conversation our mind just sometimes goes completely blank.
On a different note, old lonely people are always so grateful when you do smalltalk with them. Seriously, small talk has a bad rep these days, but it can really make someone’s day.