what do you consider when evaluating a partner’s values? I need something to look beyond besides working hard, wanting a good family, being a saver and not a spender, and not having a flirty personality with other men.

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1. When i was looking, i looked for someone whose crazy matched my crazy.

2. Someone who really takes time to listen to me and appreciates me.

3. Similar values on house management, kid education, being compassionate and understanding.

4. How they treat other people

5. Pretty much being a “support” which allows me to further accomplish my goals. Also traditional feminine qualities. When I’m looking to seriously date a woman, I don’t have a check list or look for red flags. The green flags and red will appear on their own. I just need to hit it right, be myself, and have fun. I’m not looking for a perfect lady, if she matches up with 80 -85% of what I want that’s fine. I can also fix some of the red flags if need be.

   At this point in my life. I feel like if a lady views me as quality, she’ll do her part to be in my life. She’ll be able to identify where I’m lacking and fill in the holes.

6. How she treats service workers is a big deal to me. Also how she treats others in general.

7. Just be cool, ok? Fuck.

8. Hobbies, passion, a certain degree of deviation. I don’t want to be in an echo chamber, but certain things like the way she treats others is a hard stop. Also, if you follow a political ideal that degrades others, that’s no go.

9. Not having children already, taking your word more serious than government contracts and religion, not being a sex worker might be things to consider.

10. The best judge of character is how one treats those who work under them. If your partner treats a janitor with the same respect as his/her colleague, he/she is a keeper.

11. is there mutual attraction? And are we able to be friends?

    Everything else can be compromised on

12. If she’s religious, I’m out. I can’t date a delusional person

13. Can you laugh with them?