So I (19F) found myself thinking girls are cute. I have always thought of women as the prettier gender, and I think that by percentages I find more women attractive than men. In a room of people, I might find 1 or 2 guys attractive whereas 90% of the girls there will be attractive to me.
To be clear, I only want a relationship with a man because I find the man/woman dynamic beautiful and my family is conservative.
However, I would like to hook up with women… But I don’t know where to start. I’m too scared to do anything.
Any advice for where to start?
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I get that family are important to most people, but what would happen if you definitely fell for a woman?
Why would you deny yourself happiness?
If you enjoying places like clubs etc. you can try to hook up with women in such places, from what i heard from my gf it is kind of casual for girls to have a couple of kisses with each other, unless they are extremely straight of course.
What your describing in terms of attraction to more women than men is quite common with women who are bi/bicurious.
In terms of being in a conservative family, you do need to weigh up in your mind how important it would be to you to abide by your families conservative views compared to being intimate or in a romantic relationship with a woman. You say that you’d be only interested in male partners as romantic relationships but how much of that is down to your conservative upbringing and family values versus your wishes? If it’s the former then you need to weigh up if your personal happiness is more important than your families approval. If it is, then you need to plan for the fall out of your same sex activities. And if it’s the latter, then you may be what is described as heteroromantic (is bisexual but only intrested in relationships with men). This is a totally acceptable choice to make.
In terms of how you go about it, you’ve got your typical dating apps, tinder, bumble, hinge…..
There’s also a few women only apps like HER.
Meeting people in LGBT venues like clubs, bars, social places like that is another good place….
It’s important to be honest and upfront with your potential dates in terms of if you have decided this is a purely casual thing or not. An honest description of you, good photos and maybe mentioning that you’ve not done this before can help too!
After that it’s a case of deciding where to go to explore with them. Your place if it’s appropriate and you can have time where the house is empty. Their place if they can do the same. Or a hotel?
Key thing to remember is this is your life to live and you deserve to be happy in yourself. So go ahead, be confident and get out there and meet new people!
Good luck OP!
Or just make a lesbian tinder Profil, with just this Text and pics. And there you go