TLDR: just wondering if I place too much importance on looks, it’s def not the only thing I care about, but it’s my springboard to a more deeper love, when paired with the right things…just wondering if I place too much importance on looks in a relationship.
I tend to look for attraction first, and for me, that attraction allows me to be able to fall in love in a deeper way…it opens the door for the rest of it…if that attraction isn’t there for me, or it’s not strong enough, my heart is never really in it.
On the other hand, if the most beautiful girl in the world wanted to be with me but she was a complete jerk, well then no, looks only go so far. But when the attraction etc lines up with everything else, that feels like a unicorn to me. Attraction to the point that they aren’t perfect but they are perfect to you.
Not sure if I’m looking at this all wrong. Any advice would be appreciated.
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If you aren’t attracted you are buds.
I think everyone is different. I think some people can fall in love with the person and the attraction comes later because of that love but I think most of the population probably only starts dating someone based off of an initial physical attraction.
That sounds pretty normal. Attraction is the main thing that differentiates a potential romantic relationship from a friendship.
If you’re asking whether or not it is wrong to be attractive to beautiful people then no, it is not wrong. It’s biology.
Attraction has to be there, but its just one of many boxes that person needs to check off for you. But I also feel like you need to be realistic on how attractive you are and the kind of women you are going after.
This is completely normal and fine