Even tho it sounds pretty normal, let me explain. My boyfriend and I have a long distance relationship and don’t see each other often. He is in the military so we mostly only get to see each other on weekends. So my main problem is that a lot of his (already rare) vacation days and weekends, he goes to see his mother and brother and it limits the time we get to spend together even further. He has been in the military for 2 years and will be for another 2. He didn’t have a girlfriend in the past years so he always spend his days off with his family. But now that we have been together for over a year, I feel like I deserve a more important position in his life. This Christmas holidays are a perfect example: my boyfriend came to visit me in the middle of December for 2 nights and left to spend all the Christmas holidays on a 10 day vacation (+the week they spend at home before leaving for vacation) with his family. When I asked him to spend New Year’s Eve with me he said he already had plans with his family but that he would come see me after.
I don’t think it’s fair and especially considering that he spend over 2 weeks with his family but can’t spend one of the winter holidays with me.
It’s not like I want I’m to spend less time with his family in general, but I do expect him to treat me like a long term serious partner but i am afraid it’s to early ti ask for that. I can’t imagine a serious relationship I witch one of the partners spends all the important holidays with his own family (just imagine what married couple would look like doing that).