Honestly I’m done being a Virgin and I wanna lose my v-card, I’m fairly attractive, the main reason why I’m still a Virgin is because I haven’t found the right person. Everyone I’ve met wanna do it fast and rough. I don’t feel from their actions or gaze that they look at me as a person. I’ve turned down many marriage req as well as a relationship req… I cannot be with someone I do not love nor will I fake it to be with someone. As well as my inability to do anything sexual with someone before I get attached or feel attracted to them at least.. my ex was turned off by the fact that I’m still a Virgin, but would constantly mention sex or would want to do playful things when we meet.
Honestly I don’t want to feel like that again, and I’m afraid of dating because whenever someone start to ask juicy stuff they stop talking to me when I mention that I have no experience.
Help ?
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It’s your right to have standards. You actually need to evaluate the reasons why you want a relationship without sex.
To be really honest, there is no guy who says he is interested in you who is not wanting to have sex with you; from the moment a guy asks you out, he’s main goal amongst others, is yo fuck.
Relationships are about interests, you are looking for something and they are looking for other things. It’s a value exchange. .. I dont think they leave coz you’re a virgin. .. I believe they leave when they think how hard it will be to smash yet, they will be investing themselves in you with no reward.
For me, I can only go for maximum two dates with a female without sex. .. others can tolerate UpTo 10 dates without sex. But eventually they will leave.
There isn’t anything wrong with wanting to find the right person build a relationship. Unfortunately, it is the culturally norm to expect sex early in the relationship. This obviously culls the dating pool a little bit, but there is no need to pressure yourself to conform to other people’s wants if it isn’t what you want. If you are happy waiting however long it takes to find the right person
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are you saying you have never had a boyfriend before?
Don’t even unpack it now.
Well a lot of people including myself who do have experience sometimes get it with people we dont find marriage material which is okay. In my experience, if you want experience you may have to adjust your standards. I dont mean lower them or anything negative to put someone down. However what i am saying is that a lot of the experience i have is with women that i didnt really have a particularly strong relationship with.
So the advantage of being a virgin is that you dont have any negative experiences, which trust me, everyone has. But i wouldnt be dissapointed that you dont have any experience yet, and as far as that whole “rough” thing. Don’t worry too much about that.
You’re fine. I didn’t lose my virginity (or do oral) until 30.
You will meet the right person sooner or later.
Really?! I find this really attractive and A LOT of others will be like me.
Well, if you want to lose it, go to a club, cry it out loud and the thirsty guys will line up for you.
I know it’s REALLY frustrating, but you have your standards and they’re amazing. Don’t let anyone tells you otherwise.