My bf and I have been dating for about 8 months now, and my side of the family knows about while his doesn’t know about me. We recently got into a bad argument that almost led to us breaking up.
So we decided to take a break from the relationship for about a week and while he texted me apologizing he asked me if I would be okay with him telling his mum about me during Christmas dinner and of-course I said yes because l’ve been waiting for him to, but now the time has come and he says he wanted to tell his mum but was unable to say it because all they were talking about at the dinner table was political issues and so he didn’t know how to ” interrupt” the conversation. He then said don’t worry l’m gonna tell her and that he’s not avoiding the conversation but I can’t help but think he only said it to make me forgive him quicker ( it didn’t) but I feel like that was the intention cause surely how hard is it to just say you have a girlfriend?
Especially if it’s a Christmas dinner where everyone is contributing to the conversation. Idk am I overthinking ????
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To be fair it can be hard to turn conversation, especially in the thick of it. So I buy that, but to date for almost a year with no mention to your family about your significant other? Sounds like a shit boyfriend. Hope it works out, sounds like a young couple
I’m going to assume y’all are kind of young. Have you ever tried to change the subject during a heated debate? It’s not going to happen. Also what does it matter if he tells his mom about you or not? How does that physically hurt you? Are you dating the mother?
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I do not think you are overthinking. Your concerns are realistic.
I think there are issues he is dealing with independent of you. The good news is that he wanted to tell them he just was not able to.
This seems like a communication problem. Try to see if you can work it out.