Me and my fwb (25F and M) have been together for 3 months and it went well. But I started to fall for him. I love myself when I’m with him. I don’t have to be somebody that I hate so much. We are sharing everything in our lives since we are also BFF for 5 years. Basically, we are like lovers but we don’t talk love stuff. We are both afraid that if we take one more step to the next level, it might go wrong and our existence in the other’s life will disappear. However, I want to ask anyone who was also in this situation and ended well, what signs that show if he likes me or not? And how can I get him?
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You’re breaking the fwb rules.
If he wants to be seen with you during the day; he like you. .. otherwise you are just a call girl.
Has he introduced you to anyone. .. when a man knows you are the one, he will invite you to places and introduce you to his friends. Otherwise if when you rick up to his place its just the two of you, you are just for siex.
Again, if all you offer is siex, then, all your use is just siex. Sorry
> Basically, we are like lovers but we don’t talk love stuff. We are both afraid that if we take one more step to the next level, it might go wrong and our existence in the other’s life will disappear
You’ve already crossed that threshold though.
Most people use the term “FWB” to refer to a glorified, consistent hook-up but the “friend” part of it tends to be minimal.
You two are more like FWBs originally meant: you were friends to start with and then you added sex into the mix. Even if neither of you want to be in a capital R “Relationship”, when good friends add a sexual component, it doesn’t take much to tip things into the romantic realm too.
That’s where you, OP, are at. Your original friendship is gone. No matter what happens, you two can’t go back to what it was before. That doesn’t mean you have to stop being friends if things roll back to platonic *but it won’t be the same friendship* it was before. It will be something different, not necessarily better or worse, just different.
So personally: go for it. Tell him how you feel. You have so much to gain in the gamble. And yes, you also are risking heartbreak but that’s *already the case now*. So why not just bring everything out into the open?
(Note: keep in mind, I’m biased here since I’m still with my FWB partner, 20 years later.)