What are the most common mistakes people make during first phase of dating?

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1. Comparing them to the past

2. The most common mistakes people make during the first phase of dating are rushing into things, not being honest about their feelings, and not taking the time to get to know each other.

3. Rushing things because their friends are already “ahead of them”.

   That’s not how it works.

4. Not agreeing you’re dating

5. Talking about themselves too much. Gotta make sure you ask lots of questions.

6. Being ugly

7. Jumping into it expecting to be between Tier 5 and Tier 15 right off the bat. You gotta start at Tier 1, which is hugging.

8. Expectations, they rarely are beneficial

9. Giving away all power in relationship to someone who was complete stranger not too long ago, in desperate attempt to accept and love you.

10. Not paying enough attention to reality because they’re too absorbed by scenarios they’re imagining.

11. Pretending to be someone they are not or to like things they do not. If you like someone don’t pretend you love Toby Keith just because they do. Don’t all of a sudden buy a Dolphins jersey and want to watch games when you don’t like sports. Don’t pretend to want to know the latest gossip when you don’t care what their friends do. Be yourself

12. Buying into the whole americanised dating system.

13. 1. Ignoring red flags
    2. Rushing things (i.e. sex, etc)
    3. Not communicating boundaries

14. Not properly vetting the other person out and then complain later.

15. Getting fingered

16. Fart too soon

17. People make bad bets. I will get hate and perhaps I deserve it. Way more than half of people are undatable. If you have 3 or more kids, debt, or the biggest is a bad attitude. I was a bad bet. Wife could have had a much better life. I am grateful but her dad really should have kicked me ass.

18. Not being clear /or being misleading about who they are, and what they want.

19. Rushing into things without properly getting to know each other.

20. texting too much instead of hanging out in real life

21. Turning on the goblin mode

22. +1 for rushing. Rushing to the finish line(doesn’t exist). You only get one time per person to go through the discovery phase.

23. Expecting too much

24. I think rushing into things, and falling for her too quickly is that most common for guys

25. Remember, you’re not dating her the first few months, you’re dating her representative.

26. Trying to change people

27. trying to live up to the idea of who they think you are. When you realise its not what you want they’ll start losing interest.

28. Not setting boundaries so later they step over them