Me and my bf have been together for 8 months and we really love each other and say it constantly.
In 4 different instances they have asked me to tell them I don’t love them during sex.
The first 3 times I stopped and told them “no, I love you” and kept going, but the last time I decided to say it and they started crying. We stopped and I asked what was going on, if this was something they thought they might be into and wanted to explore but they just said idk. My bf has a hard time understanding their feelings and expressing them but that made me really confused. I told them that saying that made me feel bad and I wasn’t into it but I’m scared it’ll happen again
Has anyone’s partner done something similar and what was your reaction??
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I would suggest you talk to them about this a time when you’re not having sex. Like talk to them when you’re just hanging out and explain how you appreciate their openness and willingness to talk about their needs, but that this specific action is something you are not comfortable with. It’s something you do not want to participate in and don’t want him bringing it up during sex
Your boyfriend asked you to say “ I don’t love you” during sex and when you finally did, they ended up crying?
I don’t think this is a fetish. It can be to some people but they started crying, it might be more of an insecurity thing they need to work on.
I understand eroticizing and making a fetish of our insecurities but a fetish is supposed to be fun and hot not make someone cry.
Talk to him about it, find out if they are afraid of not being loveable or if they are insecure that they dont deserve your love.
I swear nobody actually knows what a fetish is. Most over/misused word.