At what age in your life did you mature/ want to settle down?

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1. I found the right woman at age 22. I was set and content. We had our first kid at age 26. Had our last baby at age 34. So happy to have been able to start a family early instead of what happens for many. They don’t get started until mid to late 30’s. Theoretically, the kids should be out of the house by our mid 50’s.

2. A few years ago, friends started getting married and having children.

   Network effects: “that looks good, I want that too”

3. 31 still trying to get started, settling down isn’t in my mind

4. Late 20s. A combination of meeting the right person and steadily becoming more mature anyway. I’m glad it happened, I’m happier now.

5. 35 here, I disagree with the suggestion that being “mature” requires one to “settle down”. But perhaps that’s immature of me. I have no interest in ever settling down.

6. Probably like now

7. 52, hasn’t happened

8. Did 4 Afghan tours between the ages of 19 and 25. That forces you to mature pretty quickly.

   Married my wife at 23 and knew she was who I wanted to be with probably within 3/4 months of dating her. Actually got married after 18 months of being together.

   Now been together 12 years, married 11, two kids, still in the military and happy as Larrry!

9. 30s. 20s were spent getting a few degrees, working 14 hour days to get ahead. By the mid-30s that was all bullshit so changed roles and had – well, technically my wife – kids.

10. Early 30s.

11. 13

12. My girlfriend hit me with “baby and a ring by next Christmas or I’m gone” this morning so looks like it’s gonna be 26

13. 40’s

14. Mature? Probably when I was 16 and had to work a job to help support the family.

    Settle down. Can’t see that happening with myself.

15. Matured- 27

    Settle down-?

16. Age 29. I always wanted to, but two things had to be met

    – I had to meet a deserving and respectable woman I could also love the way I’d need to to build something together.

    – I had to be at peace with myself and established enough to make it happen.

    2020 was the year I was ready, met the woman early 2021 and sealed the deal right after.

17. 37, I have no plans to settle down, much less cohabitate with anyone If I can avoid it. Based on your posts it seems you are making an expectation that your guy will at some point change his mind, there is no guarantee that will ever happen.

18. I have always wanted to get married and have kids even at a young age.

19. Why is settling down viewed as maturity?

20. I’m 36 and still haven’t nor do I desire too.

21. Define “settle down” please.

22. 17. Seriously. I’ve always been boring.

23. Soon as I was interested in girls I wanted to settle down

24. I’d be dead when I fully mature

25. For me personally, I was ready to settle down in my early twenties. I’ve never been one for “just a bit of fun,” and so each relationship I’ve been in, I have attempted to make work to the best I can. I did at one point have the life I wanted, girl I cared about, and 2 kids to go along with it. Then unfortunately the situation changed and I’m now back trying to put myself back in the saddle.