I got flagged for this in another post so let me rephrase…Could y’all share techniques, positions, anything that can help stop/limit queefing? A man I was dating for 5 months broke up with me because he couldn’t get past the fact that I queefed. He’s 51. I’m 49. HI’m trying to figure out how I can stop/reduce this with future partners. And hoping this sub has some tips to share! Thank you š
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Honestly, he sounds incredibly immature for being a Half-century in age. Missionary has the least amount of sound, but it could still and does happen.
Youāre better off without him, what a clown.
Usually it depends on what position you are in, some positions will allow more air to enter than others. Identify those positions and try to avoid them if itās a real problem for you
Queefing just happens. The Gentlemanly approach is just to have a quick chuckle and get down to business.
Honestly, IMO he should have been happy you have such a snug, airtight pussy that causes queefs.
Queefs aren’t a you problem or a problem, they just happen.
As the others said, queefing is not the issue, he was. Itās natural and it happens.
Sometimes the trash takes itself out. Don’t give people who shame you for perfectly normal bodily functions a second thought
I think it’s just bound to happen, find someone reasonable who isn’t bothered by it
What do you mean I queefed? The vagina queefed, your were not in charge and if there is anyone to blame than it’s clearly his fault, this would have never happened if he wasn’t there. What a dickhead. Don’t even think about it, I would just ask myself how did this guy manage to hide for 5 months the fact that he he has the maturity of an 11 yo. If he can’t handle that, just imagine being assaulted by putrid farts underneath the sheets all night long becouse you SO decided to overindulge on junk food. Guess what, you open the window not filled a divorce.
As you have been told many times over multiple threads now, there’s nothing wrong with your body. The issue is with the men you choose to let inside your body.
Is this real? A man broke up with you over queefing? Does he understand that HE is the one pushing air into your vagina with his big olā dong? Christ. Anyway, you neednāt worry. Most people understand that itās normal and itās just air and sex can be funny sometimes.
In terms of limiting it, some positions cause it more than others. Iāve always found it happens most in doggy but you can experiment with your partner and figure things out. That said – NOT a big deal. Like, at all.
honestly I think quelling is kind of cute, haha. Makes me feel like I’m giving her good dick. That’s a silly reason to end things with someone
It will happen the most in doggy. Mostly from air pockets. If the guy pulls out most of the way and back in, he is basically pumping you with air. At some point, it needs to come back out. Slow and easy sex usually avoids this, but at the end of the day, what is a party without some noise. Enjoy the sound and if the guy can’t handle it, then he is not the guy u want inside u. Also, own it, dont be embarrassed by it, or it makes it awkward for the guy to. Just say to him “Love when u make my pussy talk”. He will be more likely to want to hear it knowing it is a turn on and fills the ego. “No one has ever made my pussy make.music like that before…damn ur good.” You get the idea. š
queefing is natural, don’t change it.
I love when my wife tells me she is going to queef. usually if she is too wet and feels like the queef would make the p*ssy spit, she taps my shoulder and I open my mouth and swallow whatever comes out of it. I love it.
It’s caused by removing the penis too much and pushing air back in with each thrust, any man who doesn’t want loads of queefs should probably check their thrusting technique first
I saw your post history. My lovely lovely lady. You have spent way too much of your precious energy and time on this.
That guy was either lying or a weirdo. I’ve never heard of anyone minding queefing.
Time to move on and put him out of your mind and find someone else. Don’t ever worry about this again.
Most men think queefing is hot, and boys are embarrassed by bodily sounds and functions.
Iād pay extra if it queefs
OPā¦..
I saw your post before. With all due respect, why are you so set on stopping a normal body function just because this guy is an idiot?
Why donāt you feel like you deserve someone who is more mature and realizes that queefing is normal? Instead of trying to stop it?
You got the same responses on the last post that youāre getting on this one. There is nothing wrong with queefing. It happens. Donāt rack your brain trying to stop queefing. Just move on to someone who isnāt an idiot.
There were 200 comments on the other post. Why do you need more telling you that your ex was a moron and thereās nothing wrong with queefing?
And to be honest OP, the likelihood that this is the real reason he broke up with you is low. I suspect he is using this as an excuse. Because at 51, thereās no way he hasnāt experienced this before.
What sort of dumbass breaks up with you over that
I would just be up front about it and if they donāt like kick rocks. I personally love it. It feels really nice on my cock.
51 and still this immature? Anyone have tips on how to quell a 51yo boy?
How do you make it through 51 years and still have a the mentality of a child?
Queefing, is due to air being trapped when the penis moves (or a sex toy). ALL women queef at some point, even men with anal sex at times. Its normal.
Think he just wanted to break up and used that as an excuse. Dont stress about it.
I posted similar thoughts before your other post got flagged.
Queefing is totally natural, and I think it’s cool when it happens with my wife.
But— if we’re talking about it technically—
I think queefing is mostly the culprit of the dude.
I find that when I “pound away” with my wife — that is, pound hard and nearly come out of her with each thrust– she queefs more. I think this is because my cock coming nearly out of her each time, it then pounds air from the outside up into her vajayjay during ‘re-entry’. That air then has to burp, err, queff out of her at some point. Like eating too fast, in big gulps, and then having to burp bigtime moments later.
So, and I mean, it’s hard to tell a new partner, f*ck me This way, but not a pounding, but I do think the manner the dude uses affects the amount of queefing for the woman. All this to say, when I pile-drive my wife, she queefs more if this makes sense. So a slow, sensual cock-stays-inside f*ck can equal less queefing later because the penis isn’t seeing near as much daylight when it’s a slow, cuddly f*ck. Hope this makes a slight bit of sense. And yes I think I just coined a new kind of sex: a cuddly f*ck.
Not forgiving the dude for being lame about it, just wanted to muse on the physiology of queefing.
Thatās absurd. How does a man make it to 51 and not understand that itās just air pushing out?
For us, some positions cause queefing more than others. My wife and I are around your ages (50). It happens when we do doggy and Iām in ātop formā, so to speak.
This is a signal of a good time. We giggle. Certainly donāt want to change things.
Itās a function of your specific anatomies. I hope your next partner is more grown up.
Find someone who you can laugh with instead of feeling humiliated when it happens. Queefing is natural and honestly kinda hard to prevent.
You should never be made to feel like you are gross by an intimate partner!
Listen, any man scared off by some trapped air is immature as hell. Sex can be gross and awkward and goofy, and any party interested in participating needs to be prepared for that or else they have no business doing it. Focus more on finding a partner that you can feel comfortable with your own body in their prescnese.
Here are some tips to prevent queefing in the future, however, because sometimes that trapped air can feel uncomfortable!
* positions like doggy, prone bone, or CAT can allow more air into the vagina
* try to limit how much your partner pulls out, especially pulling out and reinserting quickly, as this allows air in more easily
* practice kegels and pelvic floor exercises to strengthen your pelvic floor
* cowgirl/reverse cowgirl, missionary, and spooning positions tend to cause less queefing
* have the penis having partner try a grinding motion instead of a pumping motion to allow less air inside
* if you feel a build up of air, inset your fingers and gently scissor/spread your vagina (not just vulva) open to let out trapped air (this is especially useful when switching positions)
He was a looser, pure and simple.
DO IT HARDER HAAAAAAAA
Iām gonna be honest with you; positions wonāt really change queefing. Queefing is very very common. Air just goes into the vagina and when you put something in there, the air is pushed out which causes a āfartā if you will.
If some guy is gonna get all weird about the vagina just doing its thing because itās a hole and air goes into it sometimes, heās a trash human being. Thank god he kicked himself out. With my boyfriend, I queef sometimes. You know what we do?
A: ignore it because weāre completely focused on the sex.
Or
B: we laugh about it and continue on having sex.
Itās a normal thing. Just a bodily function that happens. Like anything else.
It does “just happen” but it’s also a really common complaint among women who are experiencing the results of a weak pelvic floor and can be addressed through pelvic floor therapy, or surgery if things are really serious and there is prolapse (but you would have other symptoms, I’m sure).
Pregnancy and childbirth can cause these issues, but age and hormones are also to blame, even if you’ve never carried. Not sure if you’ve seen your obgyn recently but if you broach the topic, just know you are not the first!
I have a similar problem. Could y’all share techniques, positions, anything that can help stop/limit ejaculation when I get off? A woman I was dating for 5 months broke up with me because she couldn’t get past the fact that cum came out of my penis. She’s 51. I’m 49. I’m trying to figure out how I can stop/reduce this with future partners. And hoping this sub has some tips to share! Thank you š
Queefs are usually, if not always, from trapped air. When a man takes it all the way out and back in, especially multiple times. It will result in a queef. I get embarrassed by mine a bit but my partner never seems to say anything as we know it’s normal. Trying to stop them will not work, and shouldn’t be something you try to do. Get with folks who are a bit more mature is my advice