So there’s nobody I particularly want to hang out with in my hometown. But, everytime I find myself sad with how long I’ve stuck to myself. I really enjoy my own company but I thrive on others. The only invitations I ever get are from men and they’re constant. This isn’t me trying to brag it actually makes me feel like there’s something really fundamentally weird about me that keeps me from friendships and maybe guys want to jump on that opportunity? Idk. I’ve been spending this winter break going on random dates and I’ve been asked by 2 friends to do something. Meanwhile I see everyone having group outings and etc. I’ve been a loner for as long as I remember and I think my observations on people are so accurate and cutting now that I can’t just “get to know” people, because spending so much time alone has brought me to understand people in a deeper way. Idk. Just wondering if anyone else is lonely this winter break or in life, if this is just the loner way lol.
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Well, why should people invite you ? It cannot be because you are lonely and need attention. What are they going to get out of doing so ? Typically, people look for somebody who is confident, fun, interesting to be around, or adds some kind of positive energy or positive vibes. They deduce it from the way you act and carry yourself around them. There are verbal and nonverbal cues that you give off that show you are anxious, unconfident, worrying, overthinking, etc. and they subconsciously deduce you are not that positive person they want to hang out with. For example, being overly quiet and not participating or contributing in past social interactions you had with them. You need to practice putting yourself out there and talking to people in a confident manner.
Also, people naturally recognize, appreciate, and value you when there is something respectable about you. Do you have skills, talents, hobbies ? Can they impact people ? People subconsciously attach you to the value you bring.