I got super close with a classmate of mine during the first term of my first year in college. She was my very first friend and my go-to companion in all of my classes since we have the same classes together. But suddenly I started getting the vibes that she doesn’t like me anymore and started interacting passive-aggressively with me. I am very sad about this because I don’t have any more close friends in our class and I am so puzzled about what I did wrong to make her act that way toward me without any reason I can think of. I am scared that I will no longer have a friend to eat lunches with. I really don’t know what to do. I am scared of not having an established close friend in college where I can hang out outside of school.
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People make time and effort for whom they want to make time for. That’s not you in this case. But Ask yourself something. Why is it this friends of yours easily moved on from you and doing other things besides talking to you, but you can’t do the same ? You really need to start getting busy in your life and start talking to other people. Never make one person or few people your only social option. It almost always doesn’t end well. If you make these friends your only social options, you run the risk of acting needy and clingy for their time and attention. They will lose respect for you and avoid you. Friendships are not codependent relationships. You should have other things going on in life or other people to talk to besides this one friend. People are naturally inclined to value, appreciate, and recognize you on their own, when you are respectable, not when you are chasing and begging them to be your friend.