Hi,
My parents are the most amazing parents on earth they have been married for 23 years. They have give me everything but they are the worst life partners ever.
They have been fighting for the longest time over the silliest of things but things have gotten worse over the years. I am sorry this is going to be long but I really dont know what to do ..
My mom is a people pleaser, she has done a lot for our family and particularly for my dad’s family. When my dad’s mom was ill for over 5 years she took care of her. However my mom’s self esteem has dropped a lot over the years and I think she is depressed and keeps talking about dying.. I have told her multiple times to leave my father but she just won’t sometimes she tells me that if I leave my boyfriend would think that I come from a broken family. My mom is really innocent and I want to help her. Every time I get in the middle of a fight she yells at me and makes it sound like I caused the fight. It almost sounds like she doesn’t want to be saved even If I try to .
My dad is the absolute worst . He is ungrateful and thinks that no one does anything for him and hurls curses at my mom and me. I recently got a health issue and he fought with my mom saying that she is a defective person and she is the reason I am sick . I want to slap the man so bad but I can’t. In reality he has health issues too . My dad does have rage issues and comes from a terrible family himself . He says that my mom has successfully manipulated me into hating him . He doesn’t think before saying things.
My day starts with my mom’s rant and ends with a fight at home . My mom then tells that I am like my father and I am a psychopath too and that really breaks me.
I don’t know what is wrong with my parents. I have told them to get divorced but I guess they just won’t.
Please text me or help me with what I should do about this situation.
Tl;dr My parents are fighting a lot and I can’t just stay out of it . I will be moving out in 6 months. I just don’t know what to do .
2 comments
sadly the only thing you can do is ride out the next six months and hope that it isnt as bad as it has been. the worst position for a child of any age to be put in is in between their parents in their own relationship.
Honestly, you can only do so much for somebody else who’s in a shitty relationship, even if they are your parents. In cases like this, a lot of times the solution is to accept that your relationship with your parents is always going to contain these negative elements, and decide how close you want to be with them in light of that fact. Sometimes that means never talking to them again, sometimes it means just a weekly phone call, sometimes it means seeing them once a year, sometimes it means only doing certain activities or only hanging out with one of them. I encourage you to think about what sort of relationship you could handle with them if there is never going to be any improvement in their dynamic.