I’m f19 and been dating for a few months, if I can call it that. Always seems like guys will chat with me for a few days.. find out I don’t put out so easy. And then go ghost.. I’m so tired I just want to give love and have it reciprocated. Any tips?
Tl;dr I don’t want to hook up right away and it makes guys run away
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>it makes guys **you pick** run away
FIFY. When someone is a jerk to you, he may be a jerk. If *everyone* is a jerk to you, then it’s you.
If you have time for a good book, pick up The Evolution of Desire by David Buss. Very insightful work on mating strategy goals and differences between the sexes in hetero relationships.
Good luck!
Your not the problem! Your saving yourself from guys just wanting to get their end away!
You’re not the problem. Guys are going to try to do whatever they can to get the most reward for the least amount of effort. If they have to work for it they’re going to run. Count your blessings and stay away from those guys if a guys truly wanting to be with you he’ll stick around and wait for it. 26M who’s who’s hunted for girls that put out.
Look I have seen this happen before. I do have tips but need little more info. Dm me and we can chat.
I’m in the same place, I went to a few dates and it’s really confusig. I don’t know what happened with people these day, they ghost other so easily
You’re not the problem, but you could be if the convo is running dry. I do my best to keep it flowing but give up if there is no effort from the other side
You’re not the problem here. And you WILL find a guy who matches what you want. Don’t be embarrassed to ask early doors what they’re looking for and ghost them if they just say they want a hookup.
Stop being desperate for love and live
You’re doing the wise thing. Fuck em. (Not literally)
Bro this is my experience with women
Welcome to modern daring.
As a collective this is a major problem. If you are on dating apps, the majority of people want a casual connection. So if that’s the only way you’re meeting people, it will get exhausting to sift through those people. Keep your boundaries. The right person who matches intentions will come along.
Take it as a blessing! I just got played too, but I’m happy I didn’t sleep with him. The right dudes are willing to wait! Keep your standards up, and good things will come your way!
I like to believe that everyone has room for improvement but based on what you wrote – no I don’t think you’re the problem
Hookup culture has become the norm in our society. Don’t do anything you don’t feel comfortable doing and love yourself!
Bruh me too, I’m sorry if I don’t sound positive but I’ve given up too in love. I’ve been on numerous dates and they never work out and I get easily attached and all the guys leave, ghost, and reject me. I see everyone else in relationships and I just get depressed. Maybe I’m not meant to be loved. I’ve tried dating apps too, but same thing and I can’t believe how many times I’ve heard people say they found their “boyfriends” and “husbands” on dating sites. #singleforlife
Hey, listen to me, you can marry with me
Can I assume you’re speaking about Online-Dating?
If that’s the case: Maybe you’re using the wrong app.
You aren’t the issue.
Probably,
Definitely not the problem. Guys your age is all they think about. Perhaps try to date older? I’m 28 and have been dating my 23 year old gf for almost 3 months. She’s never had sex and is not ready for it. I frankly do not care when it happens. She’ll be ready when she’s ready. I love her as a person and the rest will come naturally.
Find a better pool of guys
You’re not the problem. Fuck boys a plenty on these apps and irl depending on where you’re hanging out.
Oh not you girl def not you