Ignoring the covid NYE’s, this is my second NYE where I haven’t received a single invitation anywhere.
For context I’ve always been that friend that’s just kind of “there”. I get along with people, and I’ve had people message just to see how I’m doing or send a funny tiktok or whatever. And occasionally I do get invited places and have a great time. But I have never been the one that people invite first and I’m not sure why? I’m more introverted, but I absolutely make conversation and like I said I do have friends. If i initiated a hang out it would happen no problems. I just feel forgotten when it comes t o actual events organised by other people. It’s really hard to explain. But this is the second year I’ll be spending it home alone and while I’m trying my best to tell myself, as a more introverted person, I’ll quite enjoy watching a movie or whatever by myself, I think that fact this happens so often has just kind of highlighted in my mind that no one really cares about me. I’d be surprised if I get a happy NYE text tbh. Again, not that I think people hate me, I just think I get forgotten about. And this year it’s made me feel incredible lonely and really depressed. Is anyone else the same? How do you not feel like there’s something wrong with you?
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Why dont you take initiatives? You said you get asked by others but do you ever make plans and ask people, and discuss with them about activities, dates? Everyone has a busy life. If you are always waiting for others to make plans and then invite you… you will be left alone and forgotten. Socialization effectively works only when its both ways. Sometimes, it takes you making a bit more effort than you usually do. Those people you know know other people and maybe those other peoples are more active in taking initiatives with your friends, so they have more plans with them than you. If you wanna hang out you can always ask people what they’re doing on x date and if you guys can do something. Think of stuff, give them at least one choice and also say if theres something else they wanna do instead or in addition, you’re open. The fact is: if you wanna be with someone, you take that step in communicating that to them.