Me (M19) asked my coworkers( around the same age) to have dinner together outside after shift. One of them said “ that’s a hard question to answer man” and then left without answering.
When I left the work place I saw them going together, it’s not FOMO, but I am feeling having no self-worth, and the frustration/hatred to myself of failing to make a connection with people around me. Maybe im social awkward, being sheltered a little bit too much being a single child. I was used to being alone, but the last 2 years in uni, having a bit more freedom, I started to work on my social skill more. I’m confident in my looks, but not in my ability to be an interesting person. I can be interesting for the first 2 minutes, the rest the conversation died out. I felt like the one liner guy in the friend group.
Please share your thoughts, I don’t know what, how to make a connection. Those coworkers arent mean/bad people, they are nice, and I’m uninteresting. I want to hit myself in the head until I find a way. I want to have a genuine, real connection with someone.
Tldr: I hate my self for being an uninteresting fuck.
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Not sure if the situation and your problem are connected, seems like you’re trying to answer the question “why” by yourself when you could just ask THEM “why is it a hard question?”. Be blunt, you might get a better hint at why they are acting this way – could be you, could be them. Hard to tell.
For the problem, you described – get interesting. But ask yourself. Are you frustrated because you find yourself boring or because others find you boring as you say? Maybe you’re not surrounded by like-minded people and just need to find your group.
But you want to try at being interesting:
Read a book and take notes of your favorite moments.
Watch a series of movies and form opinions about them.
Get a hobby, learn about the history of it.
Go on a walk and observe the world.
Basically, form thoughts and opinions you could discuss with others. Researching is fun and gives you more things to talk about. Good luck!