I went on a date with this one girl and she is insanely dominant which is my dream. She was teasing me so much on purpose. She’s not going to let me cum but she wants me to eat her out, suck on her breasts, and she wants to peg me. I’m down for everything but I’m a little scared about the pegging and I guess I’m a little scared to eat her out too. I just need some advice especially to get ready to be pegged. I really really liked her and I don’t want to mess it up because I don’t think I’ll ever find a dominant woman again I just got really lucky.
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I feel like you might get more help from r/bdsm
Pegging is your personal choice: if you don’t feel like, don’t do it. I personally wouldn’t ever but there are guys who like it. On the eating out part, if u r worried about STD’s ask her for a recent test report. It’s fairly common and ok to ask! Once u r into eating her out, trust me it’s the most pleasurable feeling
Being pegged is great she may be a little rough on you for the first time, try stretching out your hole before the event
As always, don’t do any sexual acts you don’t want to do. But if you’re interested, I highly suggest starting with a small butt plug and having sex with it in to get used to the feeling. Use more lube than you think you need, and re-lube. Also try fingers in your ass and get used to the feeling of things moving in and out. Me and my bf had to work up to anal, I wouldn’t jump in to pegging for your first anal experience. For eating her out – everyone likes something different, experiment and ask for feedback, be enthusiastic. Either way she’ll appreciate the effort. Otherwise, have fun!
Talk with her about your feelings. If a dominant doesn’t care about your feelings and does things to you that you don’t want, then they aren’t a dominant. They’re abusive.
Meaning that if this has any chance of being a healthy and fulfilling relationship, regardless if it is purely sexual or also romantic, then you need to be able to share your fears and concerns with her and she should be making you feel safe and respected.
Remember that power exchange needs to be consensual. Meaning it is in reality a thinly veiled fantasy. You should always in truth be an equal partner who can revoke consent at any time and whose wants and needs and feelings matter just as much as theirs do. If that’s not the case, then it isn’t power exchange. It is abuse.
If things don’t work out with her, there are other dominant women out there. You can find someone else. And if you want to pursue a power exchange dynamic, please research the topic of emotional and psychological abuse so you know how to tell the difference. It is harder to recognize than someone physically striking you, but is still very damaging and can even be deadly.