Just as I can tell my gf is getting into it, (we are getting a good rhythm, she starts really wanting more, etc) I feel like I need to cum. She is just so hot and turns me on so much. The first couple times I think she took it as a compliment, but now it’s getting kinda annoying.
To be clear, I always make her cum with oral, long foreplay, etc, but I’m not able to pound her PIV for any extended period of time, which is just unsatisfying. How can I go longer? Or, what can I do during missionary to REALLY get her going so she cums faster? Any advice is appreciated!
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Most men can only handle 5 minutes of stimulation before they cum.
If you want to last longer for PIV, then keep up your side of the foreplay bargain but have her let go of your dick and do something else with her hands.
Either that, or cum early. Get her off, and use PIV for round 2. You should last a hell of a lot longer that way.
Ok the PE problem is mentionet every third post so I may just start just copy pasting the same response. No offence.
Premature ejaculation is largely genetic. Its about the level of necessary stimulation for involuntary muscle contractions to eject the semen. You can go about solving this problem in 3 ways generally.
1.Reduce sensitivity. This can be done naturally by exposing the haed of the penis to constant stimulation but it sucks and doesn’t reduce permanently the sensitivity. If you are willing to use products there are wipes/gells that have chemicals that temporary reduce the response of nerve endings and is generally safe BUT if not applied properly can cause desensitisation of the vagina during bareback penetration which defeats the purpose. Alternatively you can use a thicker condom. Some have such a gel on the inside for further reducing sensitivity. Keep in mind reducing your pleasure to extend its duration requires more mental focus to keep the erection since you feel less stimulated physically.
2. Increase resistance to delay the orgasm. This can be done a few ways. Adding pressure with your hand to the base of the shaft, using a toy like a retention ring (bonus points if it can stimulate the clitoris during penetration) or training your pelvic muscles. Doing kegel exercises can help you delay orgasm but only for as long as you can keep the voluntary muscles contracted.
3. Reduce refractory period. This one is the most age dependent. It involse so many processes on a chormonal level that it is different for everyone but the goal is to get hard again as soon as possible. You can obviously orgasm before penetration but if things are spontaneous you have two options. Either use a pill to increase your arousal (talk to your doctor) or alternatively you can try ejaculating internally. This leads to small to no refractory period but your penis still will be sensitive for a minute or two so go slow or give yourself a break. The key to ejaculating internally is to squeeze the pelvic muscles as hard as posible during orgasm. You will still feel pretty much the same high but the semen won’t leave the head of the penis. If you try and fail you may just ruin your orgasm.
That’s about it. Well probably there is more but that’s what I can think of right now.
>Or, what can I do during missionary to REALLY get her going so she cums faster?
Every girl is different so there is no golden rule. Obviously stimulating erogenous zones helps but if you want to make her orgasm from penetration alone angle of penetration and depth of trust are important as well as rhythm and the girth of the penis. Without more details I can’t give a more detailed answer. Also why missionary specifically?
Get a cock ring.
Just Stop missionary when you feel close?
Kegels. Motherfucking kegels. Read this. Really read this. It works and down the rabbit hole there’s even some advice about why missionary is such a nut-buster.
https://www.nateliason.com/blog/last-longer-in-bed
If you decide to do this or not, communicate to your partner that it’s annoying you and try positions that don’t stroke you so much (cowgirl with her grinding or her laying on her stomach and you grinding). Tell her you’re working on a solution and that Rome wasn’t built in a day. It worked for me but not everyone has the same problems.