2 submissive inclined people working it out? What’s your experiences?

So a long distance friend of mine has been in contact with me for over half our lives. We both have kids and are sole carers. We had a short relationship when we first met over a decade after meeting online. Different lives and I wasn’t as attentive with messages when he was away with his girls cos i was busy tbh. The distance is 200miles which is alot in this country (not like how America views distance drives). Considering raising our kids together his girls 3 and 5 my boy is 1.

Here’s the sex question part. We didn’t have much sex when in the relationship as I had alot of pain due to health issues. We’ve met up as friends since I had my baby and spent lengths of time at mine and his where the kids all met. Neither visit did anything sexual happen, we played magic the gathering and did and it was great as it was. I have the feeling he is inherently submissive and so am I..

We have a visit coming up and gonna try with it being more but I don’t know how to go about this. He is attractive and he fancies me but I’m not sure we’re gonna click.

TLDR can 2 submissive people work sexually, either ignore dynamics or learn to be switches.

I worry about being dissatisfied long term but we are both very limited/unlucky with options and we really do get on, any thoughts on how to go about this or experiences of your own?