I am a straight female for context. I’ve had multiple partners in the past, different sizes, sensitivities, cut/uncut etc. And I can tell some of them enjoy getting head (finish fast, compliments) but my current partner almost never finishes with head and has to jerk off to finish. I am coming to the conclusion that some dicks “feel” differently than others and it’s not 100% my fault. But of course I still feel bad and feel like I am not doing a good job. Anyone else have a problem with this? I had a whole technique down but it’s not working on him. I feel like I have to switch it up but I don’t know how. Please give me some tips if you’ve conquered this issue 😂
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It is 100% not you. I (m) love BJs but almost never get off from them. One time my partner was determined to get me off with a BJ, it took almost an hour and she was doing an amazing job. That said, I still remember that BJ, might never forget it.
I love sucking cock! They always cum. If you don’t like it, pretend you do. Sell it. You look at it like it’s the loveliest thing you’ve seen. Lick it at first, slowly from base to tip. Kiss it. Smile up at him. Go all around it just enjoying the feel of him on your tongue. Pay special attention to the spot on the bottom right under the foreskin. I think it’s called a frenulum. Rub your tongue up and down that part. Make circles there.
Also listen to him as you try different things. He might moan or say something dirty when he’s enjoying it. Watch his body language too because some guys are just silent.
After the exploration, you can put it all in your mouth. Put a hand at the base to help you out if it’s big. Make sure that hand keeps the same rhythm as your mouth. You are going up and down on it now. Mix speeds slow for a bit and then faster. Move your head around so your tongue is in different places. Try moving your tongue around too as you go up and down. Moan or hum while it’s in your mouth. The vibration feels good to them.
If he tells you he’s going to cum you can allow him to if that’s the goal. I like to stop and let him cool off a bit before starting again. It makes his orgasm more intense if you do that a few times. I think that’s all my tricks. Good luck Love!
Some guys just don’t come from oral sex. Ever. Sure they may have had that one time that they remember, but that will just make it harder for you because you think that girl did something you’re not doing (which isn’t true).
In reality, some guys never come from oral sex. Some guys can orgasm very rarely from oral sex, but only after a great amount of work and effort, and probably mentally working through it so the girl isn’t disappointed. I’m one of those guys, and I have multiple girls confident in their blowjob skills try to impress me only to spend a lot of time putting in a lot of work that while felt good, wasn’t ever going to make me orgasm. If it did, there was more frustration there for us both then it was worth.
And then there’s my current girlfriend, who understands that I probably won’t orgasm so that isn’t her goal at all. Rather she makes love to my cock with her mouth, caresses my thighs and balls with her lips, tongue, and hands, and ultimately makes me feel as sexually good, physically loved, and erotically worshiped as possible. Without being driven toward the goal of an orgasm, she turns the blowjob into an amazing experience. She’s motivated, but not rushing. She loves what she’s doing, and I love it when she does it. But I don’t orgasm, she doesn’t expect me to orgasm, and if we added that pressure to it it would ruin everything. Once she’s done worshiping my cock with her mouth, I’ll cum through penetration (and so will she) now that she made sure I’m nice and hard.
Maybe there is a chance that you can blow his mind by trying to take the pressure of an orgasm away, and just focusing on his pleasure and making him feel worshiped. I promise he doesn’t need to orgasm for it to be an amazing experience, and it will feel amazing throughout for him too. I think that’s part of the frustrating thing, when a girl is trying to make me orgasm through a blowjob I always almost feel like I can, and it’s frustrating to both of us. I keep getting so close!
The way she does it isn’t frustrating at all. Instead it’s only pleasure and the intensity of that connection, which is utterly erotic and memorable.
Pay close attention to how he madterbates and do it the same exact way but also add mouth and tongue from time to time. Watch how high or low his hand is. Speed and force etc…repeat how he does it. Not all guys can cum y mouth alone
Well I’m 29 male and I enjoy giving head and been given compliments and get them to cum fast. I’ve learned to take direction. So if they tell me no hands I don’t use hands, I always make sure to suck on their balls and depending on who I’m with lick their inner thighs close to their balls or bite their inner thighs. Depending on the person and dick I’m dealing with they love when I nibble on their dick. Some don’t like teeth at all so I do everything not to use my teeth. Some girthy dick is hard but I do my best